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It's over

My relationship is over and I have to come to terms with this.I tried everything but I can't get her back.
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I'm sorry You lost the Love Of Your Life - (but, admittedly, You did "earn" it!!)  what a shame that so many are willing to risk Their Life, Their Love over a "stupid" orgasm!!  An orgasm that You could have had with HER, or even "solo".  That being said, I appreciate Your remorse - but You DID, You REALLY, REALLY DID, earn this remorse.  (would You have felt such remorse had Your Relationship survived Your infidelity?? - fair question!!)
An affair, an indiscretion is NOT worth a "fleeting" moment!!  WHY!! oh WHY, do we put such EMPHASIS on the "act" of sex??!!  We need to go back to thinking that it's NOT about "sex" - We should call it "LOVE MAKING" and We should, We REALLY, REALLY should save "Love Making" for the One We LOVE!!  If it's "just" sex - then We could do that alone!!  Let's save "Love Making" for Those We Love!!
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Perfect response.
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Thankyou for being so understanding.
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That's sad RLover, :( i'm really sorry to hear about it.

As upsetting as it can be, you have to realise there are millions of girls in the world, many beautiful inside and out! There's always going to be another girl, and one who loves you and one you'll spend many years with. You only get one life to live, so you should try your hardest to get out there and stay happy rather than be upset for something you can't change. Chances are, it was bound to happen and soon enough an amazing girl and you will meet.
I don't really know what to say but if you ever need someone to talk to about anything feel free to message me and talk about whatever, x
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Thats true--sorry for your pain.
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One girlfriend hurt me so bad to had to go to see a doctor for emotion help. Ill never give that much of me to any person to THAT extent again. My feelings were so strong for her i wanted to own her and i know that is why it ended that way as we cant own anyone.
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That's true SM.I need to move on--I used to think I was bullet proof but I am human like everyone else.I'm going to take your excellent advice.I think I became a stranger and developed and ego when thats not me at all.I have learned alot from this.Thankyou again.
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Is that why you did the dramatic exit from med help?  

Stay busy----  i would try to spend time with people--  family, friends. Give yourself time and stay busy.  Work out, plan outings, start a new hobby.  This is the best way to move on.
good luck
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I hope so and you're right Londres.Life is a mystery anyway.
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The situation is unfortunate, there are lessons to be learned and you have to find a way to move on.  

Perhaps something better will present itself in the future.  
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Thanks SM.
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That is indeed life.  I've had a boken heart in my life as well.  You have to believe that it wasn't meant to be.  For all my broken hearts, I went on to meet a wonderful man that is now my husband.

Time heals and you will heal.  good luck
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Thanks mandy,it means alot.I'm sad but I have to accept the reality of it all
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I'm sorry to hear that:(
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