Okay, but keep in mind also that men can be carriers and not show symptoms of having anything or be affected by certain things, but you still could end up getting something.
Just a thought.
K - you are flip flopping so much in your posts. I can understand why since your emotions are all over the place but it sounds like now you are trying to convince yourself that you love your fiance and the guy that you cheated on him with is nothing more than a friend. You said in numerous posts that this other guy is the one you would be with if he hadn't left, you said that your feelings for him have never gone away, you said that you love your fiance but not the same way you love this other guy. You are confused and it's obvious this guy is not just a friend or you wouldn't of cheated on your fiance with him. You're not saying this won't be anything more than what it was, you are saying you don't think it will end up as more. That's not the same thing. You may love your fiance because of history and all you have been through together, and definitely part of comfortability but there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. To me, you will never have a happy life if the person you are with is second or is someone you are settling for. Break-ups are never easy and they are painful but sometimes that's what we have to do in order to truly find happiness in life. Let your fiance be truly happy with a woman who will never do what you did to him. You are only hurting him in the long run if you stay with him. You are also hurting yourself by trying to convince yourself that he is the one for you when clearly he is not.
AJH84~ I had asked him if there was any reason I should be worried about having an STD and he said no. And yes I trust him!
I still recommend you get checked for STDs. You don't know who the "friend" has been with before he was with you.
I thought all last night... I still love my fiance and maybe not in the same way I used to but I do. The friend I had sex with doesn't mean anything more than a friend and I really don't think will ever end up as more than that. I still love my fiance and regret what I did! I feel so bad!
I agree with Mami, babypooh, teko and others who said to move on.
If you had unprotected sex, he needs to know. He needs to be checked.
Regarding hurting him by telling him what you did...if you are leaving him, it could help him to move on. If he's idealizing what you had, have, and could have, he won't let go. If he knows what you did, he can be real with himself.
And you say that this isn't you, but it is. You did it. You even said you'd do it again if given the chance. And maybe you subconsciously (or consciously--only you know that for certain) fought with your fiance, gave him the cold shoulder, and took the ring off in order to justify it? And maybe you're imagining what you will write in the letter to your friend if you do end up pregnant?
If you really do love your fiance like you say you do, you'll let the decency in you shine through and you'll let him go so he can find someone who loves him the way he deserves to be loved.