My Mother and I dont get along.

[illinitasha]

I am 28 and recently came out to my parents. They are having a hard time dealing with this. Since Sept. I have not talked to them . They take my son for over night stays but I am not welcome in their house. My parents have done and said many horrible things to me and I feel as if Im one foot off the edge. I am a self mutelator and cut to relieve pain and sadness but its no longer helping. I dont know what else to do! Any suggestions???

[PromisedLand]

10 years ago I wouldn't be saying this but if my daughters (or son) were to come out to us I'd wrap my arms around them and tell them I love them just as they are and nothing could change that.


I pray you are able to reconcile with your family and get the help you need for this cutting behavior..please...


Jim

[pitter]

I agree with everyone elses opinion, I have a therapist , I only can afford to go once a month,
but she really helps me, she is someone I can cry to, and tell how hurt I have felt, and she helps me to move forward...I don't want to burden friends with my stuff, so it is good to have someone who i can be really honest with, and she gives me her honest opinion, which I appreciate.
Best wishes to you,  I think your family will come around eventually too.

[specialmom]

Yes, I'm going to go ahead and recommend with the others to seek some therapy to address cutting and these issues that drive you do it.  

I'm sure it hurts to have your family turn their back on you.  I'd encourage you to try to stay in touch with them.  Perhaps a monthly newsletter of what is up with you mailed to them.  And a "I miss you" at the bottom.  I'm not telling you to suck up but I am sure you miss them and should be honest about that.  Try not to think of hurtful things they've said.  People say and do awful things sometimes without meaning them and then things careen out of control and no one knows how to fix it so it stays that way.

So, just keep some lines of communication going even if it is only one way as in from you.  And always remind them that you are there and you miss them.  They'll come around.

In the mean time, seek a therapist to support you  and the emotions you must be having.  Wishing you lots of luck and healing to your family.

[jrobertson20]

If you are not seeking counseling please do so.  I know this is hard for you and it's hard for your family as well.  I think you need somebody to be able to talk to.  You need to do what makes you happy even if others do not approve of it.  They may come around they just might need some time to adjust to it.  But please please please get some professional help.  Best of luck.

[penswriter]

seek therapy. they can help sort out issues and help with the cutting.