Proposed to marry

[janet1028]

I got engaged to my bf in Dec. but so many signs are telling me I shouldnt do it, heres why.... after he proposed , a week later after our chritmas party his cousin told him he needed to ask me to marry, I felt he was doing it because of that...... his feelings about it is up and down, he has said he doesnt do well at being married..... I got my dress this week excited, and he tells me to late to back out now!   My daughter and grand son was living with us ,and he gets in a massive argument with her, and she leaves, its been a month, and she hasnt been back sence.... my heart is broken, I know that the things that were said were validated, but it was just the way he handled it... when we first got together , he cheated on me, we broke up , and then got back together,,, thers been some acasitions since then where I felt he was with someone else......mind u hes a great provider, and I do feel he loves me, but hes showing so many douts , I just dont want to make a mistake I wil live to regret.. what to do?

[janet1028]

Thank you so much for your feedback guys, it really a tuff decision when u truly love someone.....

[Londres70]

Agree with the above posters.

[TTinKKerBBell]

If You don't want to "make a mistake that You will live to regret" then You must acknowledge the Red Flags You are seeing:

the bad:
1.  His feelings about it are "up and down
2.  He said He "doesn't do well at being married"
3.  Your "heart is broken" regarding Your Daughter and GrandSon
4.  He "cheated on You", You "broke up", You "got back together"
5.  There have been "accusations since then"
1.  He "showing so many doubts"

the good:
1.  He's a "good provider"
2.  and You "do feel He loves You"

The bad outweighs the good as evidenced by Your own list.

SpecialMom said it well - it's much easier to break an Engagement than to end a Marriage

[specialmom]

Hi there and welcome.  Well, I'd say that if you have concerns and doubts that you should slow things down.  You got your dress really quickly---  is it a done deal or could you return it?  If you can't return it, put it in the closet and just give this some time.  Lots easier to get unengaged than to get out of a marriage.  

Is he verbalizing that HE is having doubts or is this just something you suspect?