Oh my. Well, welcome to the forum. This is a tough one. I'm not sure I get your marital relationship. LOL You had a stroke so had no sex drive. So, husband -encouraged- you to hook up with men sexually on a dating site? Whew, a lot to take in there. And you still don't want sex with him but enjoyed anal with a stranger. And he's concerned about this?? Okay, why are you two together?
And why did you tell him everything you did with another man? Did he need to know you had anal and really liked it? Do you still meet this man or others for anal sex?
Having a hard time understanding this. Maybe it is time to go out on your own in life and he can find someone that IS attracted to him and wants to have sex with him (anal or otherwise)?
And if you have an open relationship, no judgment. That's your lifestyle choice. But with that I guess comes dynamics of working out that you will do some things sexually with strangers and then not with him . . . maybe just don't share so many details of what you do outside of your marriage with him??
We do have sex it just isn't my priority with him and I don't go to him for it. Only when he comes to me sex happens. I have not met up with anyone else this was a one time thing. I do think about seeking someone else on occasion. But I can not get out of his sight. He takes me to all appointments and any shopping I want/need to do. I am being smothered. I don't know if it is a trust issue or what. Checks my phone all the time. Can't talk to anyone. Only shared all details bc of how excited he was.