Relationship

[Darshanchari]

As a Hindu Boy Can I Marry My mother's Sister's Son's Doughter? Is she my blood relation? will there be any problem?
We love each other,  Please Help

[jo929]

I think the answer to your question lies within you, you must have some doubts, or you would not have posted, so ask yourself. Should i marry someone i am kin to, would i have any problems later, You say you love each other, but is it a familys love or real true love, if you have any doubts, do not do it, as you will have problems later on, also what does your parents think about this?  remember you will have children, and if there is one seed of doubt do not do it the answer lies within you to answer  luck  jo

[specialmom]

I've got to tell you that I agree with mami on this one.  Even if I didn't know them . . . and we met and then I found out they were my cousin's child . . .  I'd not want to do that.  Besides . . . I already know the gene pool . . . I want to branch out.  lol

My husband's mother was one of 12 and his dad was one of 9 (big catholic family, what can I say)---------  can you imagine the numbers of cousins.  But I'm just hoping that my kids branch out a little from a relative of any sort . . .  it is a big world out there and they should be able to do it.  Besides, little strange at the wedding . . . who sits on what side and all . . .  

My family is very small.  I think of my kids marrying one of their second cousins that yes, we know them all.  That would be very odd indeed.

But my original point is---------  relationships are hard.  If you have to ask the question is it okay, it is going to make the relationship harder.  

[RockRose]

But your cousins too,  mami?    Richie's family apparently is all close (and smaller than my family,  if you are able to have a close relationship all the way with 3rd cousins - my third cousins number in the 100's,  literally.    You hear stories like this,  where people fall in love only to learn later that they are fairly closely related.

[mami1323]

Really?  Wow.  I think it's because Richie has such a tight knit family that we are always with the 1st, 2nd, 3rd cousins and so on.  So to me I always just picture that.  

[RockRose]

I don't have the gut reaction to this ya'll have.  I have second cousins I haven't even met,  and probably never will meet.   I have a large family,  and we get together every summer,  and I have second cousins who come that I barely know,  only see once a year and I'd have to look on the family tree chart to see exactly what relationship name to all them,  it doesn't seem incestuous to me.  

To me this is nothing like that gross MacKenzie Phillips getting up there and yakking about thumping her dad,  which was vile.

Second cousins,  to me,  seem so removed.    Do ya'll even know all your second cousins,  or would you even necessarily recognize them on the street?

In doing a quick google search,  it seems research is beginning to show that cousins marrying isn't the genetic disaster it was once thought to be - women over 30 giving birth have a higher chance of a genetic abnormality than first cousins.

[mami1323]

I think not only is it gross...lol...but genetically it's dangerous.  Just like penswriter said, it could lead to genetic disorders within children.