p.s....your lucky he forgave you, because many men wouldn't have forgiven infidelity. Food for though!
Remember that he is also the father of your children and you don't want to bring another man home too soon. If you are no longer in love with your b/f, the be honest with him and yourself and break up, but you have invested 11 yrs. of your life, is the father of your children and loves you. I think it's a great idea to tell him the truth that he is just not satisfying you in the bedroom and if he is willing to see a counselor or sex counselor. They are trained professionals that will get down to the bottom of the real problems in the relationship. Remember, the grass sometimes is not greener on the other side, so proceed with caution! Good Luck, Judy
If all you care about is sex by all means leave and then you will get tired of the next one leave him and just keep going there is more to marriage than sex why did you have children with this man there are birt control things out there, i hear this every day i am not happy the sex is not good i have cheated bla bla bla why did you start a relationship with him in the first place of you did not intend to follow through grow up the grass is not greener on the other side ask the ones that have cheated jo
You know, I just want to say this first, lately I've seen these non-stop posts about a person being unhappy in their relationship and the answer to their unhappiness is by cheating on their partner. I'm just so saddened by this. I've been a victim of infidelity and it was the most hurtful and life altering experience I ever went through. It completely changed me as a person and really crushed me to my very soul. I'm not saying I won't give the best advice possible, but I don't think people really understand the magnitude cheating has on a person. It's so selfish and so unnecessary. I feel if you are so unhappy than leave the relationship and pursue other people who will meet your needs better. Now on to your question about should you work it out or move on. Well that's your call, can you live in a relationship where you feel the sex is inadequate? Here's the thing, how could your boyfriend know that he wasn't satisfying you? Did you communicate it to him? Perhaps he was never taught how to please a woman. Can you work with him on how to do this? I feel your boyfriend deserves to be treated better. If he is a great guy he deserves someone who will appreciate that. Perhaps there will be someone out there that can fulfill all your needs, maybe there isn't. No one can tell you there is. You have to either take that chance and see what else is out there or you can try your hardest to work through your issues with your current boyfriend. Maybe try taking him to some sex seminars. I think it's unfair to stay with him if you know you won't be able to remain faithful.