Should I be virgin until my marriage?

[Dumbo33]

I am 27 years old male. Sadly, virgin. I never had a longtime girlfriend, therefore, I am.
I always felt like that I would do sex with the girl I love but it never happened. Now I met one girl who is really interested in me sexually. She is sexy but I don't love her from my heart. Should I release my sexual frustration with her or just let her go? Does it matter to be virgin until the marriage? If I do intercourse with her, should be in some morality-crisis? Did anyone ever gone through this stage before?

[lovemykids465]

personally I would wait. You have waited this long and think how special she will feel when she realizes that she was your first and only! I was not a virgin when I met my husband and he was. I wish I would have kept myself for him. We have been together 2 years now. I ask him if he wishes he had been with others before me just for the sake of knowing what he missed he said no way according to him he has not missed anything.

[specialmom]

You know------------  you've waited a long time to have your first experience with someone you love.  In this day and age, that is not too common.  I would almost say that perhaps it is better to focas on finding that girl you love vs. someone to have sex with.  You've waited so long for that.  Is there a reason why you haven't been able to find a longterm relationship?  Is this something you desire?  

No one can blame you if you give into your urges but it is better to at least do it with someone that you aren't sure yet if you will eventually love them vs. someone you know from the start that you don't have love in your heart for.  It will be better that way.  And many women become closer after sex so you must be prepared for your and her emotions after the event.  You have to keep everyone's feelings in mind with a decision like that.  Does she know you are just going to have sex with her and want nothing more?  

It is not a moral crisis to have sex.  It is a natural thing.  But since it is your first time, I would try to at least have it be with someone that you can eventually grow closer to vs. someone you know you never will.  Either way-----------  ALWAYS use protection to protect against unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.  Good luck

[severin76]

It depends mainly on your personality, so I can tell you just something about my views, which may be totally different from yours. In my opinion, it is not the best decision to wait until marriage - if you do not know the person you decide to marry also sexually, then there can be a lot of unpredictable surprises in this area after marriage - and unfortunately many of these surprises may be very bad and destructive... I think that partners should know each other very well before they get married - and sexuality belongs to such important parts of our personalities which shouldn´t be simply ignored before marriage.
So my advice would be to enjoy sexual experiences with this girl if she is interested. I do not consider sexual pleasure as immoral, so I never had any morality crises when I enjoyed this kind of pleasure with a girl who wanted the same.
I am not a member of any religious group, so I do not consider religious aspects of the situation and I´ve written this post only from my own perspective. I hope it helps.