Help, Need some Advice...

[nsalcedo06]

Hello I am 24 yrs old, & I hope i can get some advice....I have 2 kids, married, we live in a 2 bdrm apt. In about November of last year my mother in law talked to my husband about her other son (my brother in law) that he wasn't doing good at school, hanging out with the wrong crowd, not listening, being lazy. So she told him if he could come live with us to our house. My husband said yes, without asking me or talking to me about it. So i find out hes coming to live with us. I'm ok with it at first but still mad because he didn't consult anything with me. so days pass by, he is going to school (by the way he is 15 yrs old) and everyday he gets home at around 4:00 p.m. My husband and I work and don't get home till about 6:00. Everyday is the same thing when we get home, my husband tell his brother to do chores around the house, do his homework, & shower. His brother gets mad because he does not like to be told what to do. He says he never has homework, he talks back to my husband & yells at him, he is always cussing at home, and he says really bad things about us that i have found out from friends. I tell my husband to talk to him, to send him back to his mom, or his dad. When I'm home with my 2 boys on Saturdays his brother is there at home, and wakes up late, doesn't clean up, he just sits there watching t.v, playing his PSP, and in the computer. I have to call my husband to tell him what his brother is doing & so that he can call him to tell him to do stuff. I am really tired of this because i feel that when i talk to my husband about having his brother at our house he doesn't care what i feel. I have told him so many time that i am tired of his brother being at our house not doing nothing, talking back to us when we ask him to do something, dressing like a gangster, hearing gangster music. I just don't know what to do anymore. I sometimes feel like grabbing my kids and leave the house, but something stops me. I don't know if i can leave, or maybe I'm just scared of being without my husband. I don't want to feel this way anymore. Please let me know what i should do.

[lovemykids465]

You and your husband are not his parents. His mom needs to be responsible and take him in. He is just acting like a typical 15 year old. But you are to young to parent a 15 year old. Enjoy your kids because before you know it they will be 15 and I am sure you will not be shipping them off somewhere else.

[AmbassadorofAwesome69]

Well, first of all, the guy sounds like any other normal 15 year old!!  LOL.  This is your husband's brother.  This is just a temporary situation you have to accept.  I think the best advice is for you and hubby to sit down together and tell the kid, "Hey, we're trying to help you out by letting you stay but here's some things that will have to change".  

[RockRose]

Here's the thing.  Your mother in law couldn't stand living with him - that should have given your husband a BIG heads-up that this boy is difficult.

On the other hand,  I don't really understand why your MIL kicked him out.  He's a typical 15 year old. This is how 15 year olds behave,  and you will notice this when your kids are 15.  

Brothers aren't meant to be fathers.  Why don't you give him a serious warning (although that won't help,  he's 15) and then send him back to his Mom?