I am married women plz help me as my situation are hard to decided

[roselyn25]

Hi Eeveryone this is roselyn n I am 27 yrs old married women I there is a pathetic situation going in my life I need genuine suggestions as this is regarding my life I am feeling depression since past 2 yrs . so its been 5 yrs of marriage it was a love marriage n we both were very happy when we got married but eventually things got changed in our life as there was clash since the beginning created by my inlaws as they dont like me as I am not there choice for there son. he is quite like mamas boy he just cant support me in any sort of issues in my inlaws house which breaks my heart always there has been situations where he has hit me rather then understanding that we loved each other n I am now his responsibility as I married against the will of my family.  though I tried my level best to do all as per there family wish but was always a failure as they never gave me chance n treated me not as part of family. things were getting worst I did my graduation before marriage n was getting jobs but I chose to marry love of my life n I was a housewife due to situations n tension in married life my health became week n got a medical condition pcod though I conceived 2 times in 3 yrs but both times I lost my babies :(  n after that I was in great depression as there was pressure for child.  to get out of this depression I joined masters program which helped me like a therapy to cope up. then came christmas so we both have gone to in laws home to celebrate but as I already told they not supportive there was a clash again n my hubby has hit me badly this time I anyhow managed n dint told my parents n I forgive him that time but the scar is always there in heart.  all my love has gone away for my hubby since that day how hard I tried :( .
                    After time has gone I complete my masters successfully with first class n there was a ray of hope In my life that I can work n earn n stand once again.  I dont know whats plan of God in my life there was a twist in my life when I came across a old friend n he is talanted n smart n caring.  since the first time we meet there was a connection bet both of us. we meet again n again n share about our lives with each other n one day we both discovered that we have feelings for each other . I dont want to betray my hubby but situation r like that n other hand my boyfriend is not married n he loves me so much I can feel it.
               now I am looking for jobs n taking a right decision in my life so that I never have to regret again for my mistakes have done in past plz help me by giving suggestions that should I stay with my hubby or should go along with my boyfriend to some other country where we both can decided n later we can marry if situation like that I want some mature suggestions. THANX A LOT
                                                      ROSELYN

[roselyn25]

Thanx a lot dr ur absolutely rite I am planning for same will get some job first anyways I am not in state of mind for second relationship it will take lot of time be in touch thanx for ur valuable suggestion it means a lot to me ... roselyn

[AnnieBrooke]

* not as well suited to advise you as I would be if I were in your culture*

[AnnieBrooke]

Hi, Roselyn,

If your husband is so in the bosom of his family that he will hit you rather than support you, and if your love for him is gone, and if you have a way to support yourself on your own, I would tell your family the truth, that your husband has hit you several times, and I would leave the marriage.  I'm American and not as well advise you as if I were in your culture, but the deal-breaker to me here seems to be your husband not standing with you but standing instead with your in-laws against you.  Other things might change, but that will not change.

After you leave, get your job, and make a clean departure.  You are within your rights to tell your boyfriend where you are going, but ask him for a time period (like 6 months) where you don't see each other, so nobody will feel like you left your husband to run to the arms of another man.  That is not precisely honorable, but even more important, it is not wise.  You need to be on your own two feet before getting deeply involved with a new man.