Is he testing me?

[Libby2999]

So me and this guy have been ok friends for some time. Not too tight but wet both pretty energetic and I think he's sooo cute. Also sadies is coming up soon and I want to ask him but I feel like he's testing me. Last night we texted til 2:30 am and he told me some secrets that he has never told anyone. He says he's bisexuall and has fanissys about this guy (he is pretty hot though,) and he's phycike (sorry, can't spell) and can feel other peoples emotions. Also he says he  has over sesitive sences. It kind of reminded me of "the tale tell heart". Also he says he puts himself in all AP classes so he can stay bussy so he doesn't have to think about being bi. Anyways he kept asking me if I was going to ask someone to sadies and I said idk. Anyways I feel like he keeps testing me. He even said he wanted me to ask him to sadies but I want to do it face to face not over text. He's all "text me back when your ready to ask me" so I didn't text back and after maybe half and hour HE texted ME. So I'm confused, is he testing me? Do you think he's using me? I'm the only one he told who he likes. He did give me a name but I won't tell anyone (but here you don know who I'm talking about :)) what if he's useing me to not feel bi? I don't care if he is. I might be myself and one of my best friends is.

[brice1967]

I've never been a teenage girl, so I really have no idea what you are going through.  But, I am a dad, and I've been around a while.  I kind of know how things go and the level of importance of different things.

Whatever test you think this kid is giving you is of the least amount of importance in the spectrum of all things in your life.  Being gay/bi/straight is a nothing thing.  Be true to you, stay in school, study, get good grades, further your education, and make a positive impact.

[specialmom]

Hm.  Well, I think you are taking a risk but you are very young.  Not like you are going to marry the guy and he'll leave you when he finally decides that he only wants to be with the same sex.  

Being "bi" is much more acceptable now than it was when I was your age.  Good thing or bad?  I don't  know.  But all experimenting usually has a profound affect as we look back on the mistakes we've made.  Take that for what it is worth.  And please don't take this the wrong way, staying up til 2:30 am would have been better spent studying and working on that spelling.  If you were my kid----------- I'd want to see a lot more of that than you texting some guy about how he is hot for another guy.  

Good luck

[TTinKKerBBell]

P.S.
We are in an age of Aids and STDs - choosing to be with  someone who is not making choices, someone who is "doing" or willing to "do" both men and women seems especially careless to me.

[TTinKKerBBell]

My personal opinion:

I would never involve myself with someone who professess to be "bisexual".

Straight OR Gay is okay - but BOTH??!!

To say "I'm Bisexual" strikes me as SO promiscuous.

I'm sincerely curious why would You want a relationship with someone who professes to You that he fantisizes about "this guy"????

[AnnieBrooke]

If you want to ask him, just ask him.  Don't twist yourself into a knot, it is just one event.  Good luck, have fun.  That's what it is all about.