Threesomes

[Jasmine205]

Why are guys so eager for them?
But they don't want a couple foursome though...I assume its the male ego at play, right?
They want only "one"penis in play (theirs)

My guy is wanting one..I don't want one...I'll be catty and hostile all through it.

[Jasmine205]

*nods head* I did make up one, I suggested we try a big ole strapon on him ..lol Guess what? He wasn't keen on it..Big surprises. I wouldn't actually want to do that with him, but it just again showed me, he is only up for what he wants.. Selfish selfish and I was darm sure I was driving the point home that he is being selfish.

I think if you don't try to hold up a mirror to your partner at times and say , "hey, take alot at what I am seeing in you now" they just won't ever see it themselves.

On the nipple piecing its if I welch on a bet that has yet to happen.. I said if I ge *** he has to pay for it, and stay with me and hold my hand , he agreed.
Yet, bet surprises again, he himself won't get a piercing..

Good for you, stay strong on the baby names you want. If he doesn't see your side, that's his loss. Feel right in what you want, because you are right. *hugs*

[AnxiousGurl]

lol I definately get that guys have fantasies but whys it have to include other woman, I guess they can fantasize all they want lol....as for the piercing..well thats a little different considering it doesnt include other people...im sure it would hurt like a b* though. If I were you I would make up a fantasy and play it out for him....one he'll never forget...lol
Good luck! and thanks for the advice on my post, I agree he should compromise....im not giving in!

[Jasmine205]

He also wants me to get a nipple piercing.. Yep, he has lots of sexual thoughts for me..lol *mutters guys*
I have lots of sexual fantasies I have never tried either, and I haven't forced them on him..
I think he has big eyes to the idea for now, and most of his life (lol) He's about to be 25 yrs old . And I think that is what is pushing the live out the fantasies.

I agree, AnxiousGurl.. He should respect my choice and not try to force it, nothing will come his way by harrassing me.

[AnxiousGurl]

I wouldnt do it, it could ruin what you have, especially if he likes it. I feel like if he is only serious with you and loves you he should only want to be with you in  that sense, sure he has the fantasy but he should respect your choice to not want to do it.
Also, not every guy is into 3somes. my bf has no interest whatsoever, he may or may not like to watch one but he doesnt want to have one with me ...Thank god!

[Jasmine205]

Thank you, sammy73, Vance2335, and jo929.

I am not happy with the idea or thought of bringing another party into a sexual and loving relationship. I never had a sex encounter outside of a loving bf/gf relationship, nor a one night stand. I haven't even had a "f- buddy" before. Just not into all of that stuff.
I think he wants it with me because of how he feels for me and thought of me making out with another chick turns him on heaps. *sighs*

lol, sammy73, I will let sleeping dogs lie, and when they raise up their little doggie head and whimpers for it, I'll nose tap with a rolled paper :P

I know, Vance2335.. why does he want it after marriage? I suspect that he figures if it causes a hella storm of fights we are then married and I won't just bolt..

I think, jo929, the only reason I was even giving him the time and thought on it, is because I do love him and I am not a just say "no"type..I want all the details outted first, lets go over what he wants and thinks he needs from it, why with me, when , with who? What's funny is when I said , "hey, why not a foursome, sweetie?" And with one of your friends, he was like no I don't want any of my friends touching you, only me and I don't want any of their gfs seeing me naked.. Hmm, I said. Interesting.
I said curious how you aren't willing to compromise your wants and likes to appease me..

If I don't want to do it I won't do it. I am very possessive of who I love and I don't want to see another girl kissing a man I love right in front of me and pretend I don't want to scream stop it..*smiles*

[jo929]

If you do not care for it, Why lower your self to do it, he will just think less of you after the deed is done. Find someone that appreciates you the way you are jo

[Vance2335]

I would not advise to do it after marriage, I have never personally seen it ruin a marriage but i have head of many cases where it ruined a marriage.

I have a feeling that if he finds this other girl that when time comes she will be doing more then just going down on him. It's tough to resist when it is put on a plate right in front of you.

[sammy73]

I can understand why he wants it - it is a common male fantasy.  In most cases I suspect that is how it stays, although Vance clearly has had the opportunity to give it a try.

My opinion is that sex, and particularly acting out a fantasy, role-play, more "non-standard" behaviour etc. should be something that both (all) involved are at least comfortable with, preferably should be something they are into.  I don't think it's a good idea to do it if you are not comfortable with it, and right now it sounds like you are not.

Since he's backed off asking, and you are not comfortable, I'd let sleeping dogs lie...

[Jasmine205]

Thanks for replying to my post, GRose and Vance 2335.

Okay heres the full deal on his 3some wants ...

He has been with 30 different women sexually, and has never had a threesome before, inside or outside of relationships. He has when single had a few drunk groping sessions, kissing etc but fully clothed, no penetration.

So of course I was curious, why with me?
He said because we have a trust and bond that he didn't have in his other relationships, and he went as far to say, he would prefer we did it after marriage not before.
During the act, he wants to only have actual intercourse with me, other girl is for just kissing us or touching, or going down on us both...(yeah, don't going down on me, thats for sure) Its his one unfullfilled sexual fantasy he wants to have fullfilled with me...*sighs*
I already told him I'm undecided and if he pushes it the fast answer will be NO! so he has shut up on it :P

[Vance2335]

From a male point of view. Most guys have dreamed of a 3-some. I know for myself I have had 2 back in my college days and it was a huge turn on watching the 2 women play with each other while I was part of it.

If I was in a strong relationship I would not want a 3-some unless it was one where I would only touch my GF/wife and could not touch the other woman.

Now a group thing is a little different because most guys don't want to see their GF/wife getting it on with another guy. Some guys do. This is something I have also done in college, girl was not really a girlfriend more of someone I hung around with and had sex with, so no real emotion attached with her.

If I was you I would not do the 3-some unless you want to be with another woman and set down rules what your BF can and can't do.

[GRose]

I've never actually had a boyfriend that wanted to have a threesome. I would take offense to that and that would make me question my relationship. I feel like when someone requests a threesome while in a serious relationship they are just looking for a way to have sex with someone else and get away with it. I could never do that, my boyfriend is just that, MINE. I would not share him with someone else just like he would not be ok with sharing me with someone else.