VERY LARGE PENIS

[KIMBERLY98]

MY BOYFRIEND IS 6'9" TALL!!!! SO, MAYBE YOU CAN IMAGINE MY QUESTION! I AM 5'9"!
TO SAY THE LEAST, IT HURTS ALOT WHEN WE HAVE SEX, NOT ALL THE TIME, JUST WHEN HE IS READY, HE GOES WAY TOO DEEP AND IT SEEMS TO GET HIM OFF THAT IT HURTS ME. HE IS VERY SWEET AND KIND AND LOVING, BUT THIS BOTHERS ME! HE IS LIKE 10" LONG AND HAS A VERY LARGE GIRTH!!!!! I WANT TO PLEASE HIM, IS THERE ANY POSSIBLE WAY THAT I CAN LEARN TO HANDLE HIM, EVEN AFTER 5 YEARS? SOMETIMES THE PAIN IS WAY MORE THAN THE PLEASURE AND I CAN BARELY TAKE IT! THANKS TO ANYONE WITH ANY ADVICE!

[mags59]

I had both endometriosis and fibroids.  Each time, it was VERY painful to have sex.  It felt like he was hitting something.  I agree to see a gyno; I've since had a hysterectomy due to fibroids the size of baseballs (besides the fact that I'm almost past child-bearing years anyway), and since then, I have absolutely no pain whatsoever.  Good Luck!

[KIMBERLY98]

Thanks. I do have endometriosis, so I could still have fibroids, cyts and scars that are causing me pain. Thanks again for reminding me, I had 2 laparoscopies over 11 years ago, so it kind of slipped my mind b/c he is so big and it hurts alot, yet didn't hurt with anyone else!

Kim

[smittygirl]

Wow.  Firstly I have to say that I liked txsilver's response most of all.   The issue of him getting off on hurting you is not ours to judge.  I will tell you this, I was told by a doctor once that no matter how large a man is it should not hurt as our bodies are designed that way.  Think of how long and wide a baby is when born.   The pain could be from fibroids etc..  The best advice someone gave you was to see a gyno.   The pain/pleasure thing is between you and him, no one else.  Good luck.


S.

[KIMBERLY98]

NOT THE SAME, THE HEROIN, MEAT SELLER IS AN OLD, OLD BOYFRIEND WHO RE-ENTERED MY LIFE AFTER 10 YEARS, A WHOLE OTHER STORY. THE CURRENT BOYFRIEND IS THE WELL ENDOWED MAN, HE HAS NO DRUG ADDICTIONS! THANKS FOR ASKING FOR CLARIFICATION BEFORE MAKING ANY STATEMENTS. BY THE WAY, I GAVE UP ON THE OLD BOYFRIEND, KNEW THAT WOULD NOT BE GOOD FOR ME! THAT WAS QUESTION OF IF I SHOULD TAKE HIM BACK WITH HIS ADDICTION, EITHER PAST OR PRESENT! MY CURRENT B/F IS ALSO AN EX, OR MORE LIKE ON AND OFF FOR ABOUT 5 YEARS, BUT TRYING TO WORK THINGS OUT NOW, BUT HAVE THE MINOR ISSUE OF HIS SIZE AND EAGERNESS. THANKS AGAIN
KIM

[JJety]

Is this the same boyfriend (or is it exboyfriend?  your stories differ between forums) that is a heroin addict and his job is a door-to-door meat salesman?  That intrigues me - I've never heard of that career.

I think you have stated in your own works a million reasons why you can't stay with this man.  He'll ruin you.

[txsilver]

only one thing to do with one that tears up the playground, throw it over your shoulder and burp it :)

[tblack]

My boyfriend is a foot taller than me (6'6") too, and has no experience, but at any time there was any indication of anything at all hurting me he'd stop or at the very least check on me.  It does not sound like a good sign that he's enjoying hurting you!  If I were you I'd be afraid that I was lost in the familiarity of a bad relationship, and whether any other ways he enjoys hurting you are apparent right now, I wouldn't suggest sticking around to find out what they are.  It's a problem whether it's a conscious thing or not.  Why would you stay with a guy who enjoys hurting you?!?!

[Jame0223]

Wow..my boyfriend is completely average..and sometimes he can hit something that hurts. If I make a sound thats anywhere near "ow" he will stop and ask me if I am okay. I would not be comfortable with a guy that likes hurting me on purpose. Are you sure he is aware? I also agree that even though he's big...he shouldn't hurt you if he knows what he's doing. Most girls "wish" for a well endowed gentleman...so obviously we should wish for a well endowed experienced gentleman.

[Jaybay]

Thanks mayflowers.  Obviously I missed that part.  I really have trouble reading text written in all caps.  LOL!

I also agree with your second statement, as that's been my experience as well.

[mayflowers]

Jaybay, I think it was this part that sounds a little off  '....AND IT SEEMS TO GET HIM OFF THAT IT HURTS ME'.  

BTW, I've been with well endowed men, and if they know what they are doing, it doesn't hurt.  

[Jaybay]

Kimberly, is he even aware that he is causing you pain?  If you haven't had this discussion in 5 years, it's way overdue.  I'm hoping he really isn't aware of the problem, but if he is, it's not going to change.  It's up to you whether you can live this way or not.

[RockRose]

Kimberly,  I think you need to get out.  My husband is well-endowed (okay,  not like THAT,  but bigger than average) and even though he tries not to hurt me,  sometimes it still happens.   This is a guy who's trying to hurt you - so it will happen everytime you have sex.  

Not a good life.

[mayflowers]

I agree with the Jo and Ceela.  That's gross that he would want to hurt you and think it was ok.    That's not a lover, that's called 'a rapist'.  Dump him and do it soon. Then get yourself into therapy and find out why you let people, especially men, treat you so bad.  Good luck.

[Ceela]

Dump him!  He is "sweet and kind and loving" and it "seems to get him off that it hurts me"?   Huh?  You think it is okay that it turns a guy on to really hurt you?  No offense, but forget the Gynocologist and go straight to the Psychologist!  Why in the world would that be okay?  I'm betting you deserve better!

[jo929]

Go to a GYN Doctor.  luck  jo