Why do things feel different between me and my boyfriend?

[CharlieG123]

I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. We used to have sex a lot almost like everyday but lately I just don't want to do it all all. He keeps asking me and bringing it up all the time but I tell him no almost every time. Occasionally I say yes because I realize it's been a while and he's probably getting frustrated. But I'm just not in the mood im not into it anymore. I don't know why I don't want to. the sex is really good and I'm not losing feelings for him or anything I just don't want to have sex. I get really upset because he wants to do it a lot and I just let him down and I don't want to make him mad but it just seems like that all he wants to do and when I talk to him about it he gets mad and tells me "that's not all I want to do why do you think that?" And he tells me he thinks that I'm acting weird like I'm going to break up with him when I'm not but him saying that makes me upset with him I don't know how to talk to him about how he acts that upset me because I get the same response every time and it just keeps happening. I just want this to stop and I want things to go back to the way they used to be I don't know what to do.

[Nighthawk61]

So i have to ask, CharlieG123, are you aware that you read your own post and answered it saying in a joking manner to "just leave him, lol"?   This is your own advice.

[Nighthawk61]

Thanks Specialmom for reminding me of CharlieG123's previous post titled "My boyfriend cheated on me but I still want to be with him" posted August 11/'17. The poster answered her own post on August 23/'17 with the following two comments... "

CharlieG123
Just leave him lol
Aug 23


CharlieG123
Sounds like you and him aren't having such a great relationship you should just break it off before you waste more of his time and your time instead of waiting until the future to make your decision just decide so you both can just move on if you can't get over it already

[specialmom]

Normally in a situation like this, I'd ask you if there were other things going on or if you were mad at him on some level.  But you already answered that for us.  He cheated on you, you are choosing to stay with him but clearly this is affecting things.  You haven't gotten over his cheating on you and maybe on some level you are punishing him or on some level you know this is not where you want to be in life or on some level you are still so angry and hurt that giving of yourself in an intimate way is painful.  The not wanting to have sex with him is a symptom of what is going on inside.  It isn't the problem---  the problem is much deeper.

You can't go on forever being half in a relationship.  You either forgive him or you don't, move on or you don't.  So, you'll have to decide what you want to do.  And if you are choosing to stay (and I'm not sure I would personally)  ---  you  have to do the work to get past the cheating.  good luck

[Countrymorninggirl]

Great answer specialmom. You hit the nail on the head.