Thanks everyone. Really is sound advice! I'm keeping my child no matter what. But it just feels good to be reassured i can do this. :)
Agree with Specialmom.
If he doesn't want to be with you, sadly you can't make him and you are far too valuable to beg anyone to stay. You could always get the law on your side in terms of getting child support.
A baby is not a death sentence and neither is being a single mom. You can do this and plus you are just 21. You have your whole life ahead of you with many options to explore. Do not allow one man to hold you down. Life is just beginning.
Take Care!
Anna
Agree with SM.......great advice.
All the best dear.
Oh, I'm very sorry to hear this hon. How old are you??
I think that sadly you must accept that you may be a single mom. You could consider adoption if that seems like to much which is a wonderful thing for families or make a plan of how you will care for the baby on your own. You can't force him to be with you.
You CAN always and should always establish paternity after the baby is born and legally set up child support payments. That is a responsibility that no one can say they don't have and the court will side with you on that.
So, I'd make some plans for the arrival of your baby. I'd ask him to be in your life and if he chooses not to, stay polite to him as the father of your child but you've got many other things to figure out at this point. Peace and I'm sorry it worked out this way. (PS: he may just be scared or overwhelmed and may come to his senses. That does happen. but because you can't count on it and having a baby is a BIG deal, plan accordingly for what it would be like if he is not in the picture. peace