I think it is good that you are seeing the big picture. It is a wonderful thing to be so introspective at a young age. Questioning why you had so many sexual partners may be happening now because you are now with a guy that you care about. I'm so glad that he doesn't care and as the others have said, you don't need to tell anyone in the future. You don't have to lie, just change the subject. But the fact is that YOU care. So, that means you have learned a valuable lesson in life. That is called emotional growth. Good for you!!
I don't think you need to tell anyone about your past lovers. Why would it matter to him or anybody? Are you having sex with other people as well as him? That would matter but not what you did before you became exclusive with him. All that matters is who you are today - not who you did last year.
yeah, I didn't want to answer, but he put me on the spot. lol. It's not like I wasn't curious about him... I just didn't want to ask, because like you said... its nobodies business but his own/my own. I don't think it matters to him all that much, honestly. Or so he says. Because after I told him, I got really upset and he said a lot of the stuff you guys said... that everyone has a past and that you can't change it. I guess the fact that I had told him the truth wasn't the biggest part of what was bothering me, it's the fact that it was the truth in the first place. But, stuff happens. Needless to say, I haven't done anything like that in over a year, so I'm on the right track :D
Judy says it right...we all have to understand that anybody we date is going to have a past...they haven't spent their entire life waiting for you..and I came to accept that early in my sexual life..yes, you wonder what went on between then but it is you and him now and possibly in the future and with most women that is what matters. I've rarely had this conversation with my wife and I don't care...I love her, she loves me we've both had other partners and can't change that...over dwelling on this issue can cause problems that he will not want to have and can ruin a relationship.
Jim
i think that i would have not answered his question it really was none of his business, in the future leave sex out of the conversation unless you have known him a long time and that question is not anyones business but yours luck jo
I was way more experienced than my fiance, which also included a previous engagement. I'm also older than he, he looks older than me (lol), anyway... I recommend that you avoid this type of conversation with him. It's natural to want to know the intimate past information from the person whom you love or just curiousity, but you have no reason to apologize or feel bad about your past. Tell him that we all have a past, but he is now the present and future and leave it at that and don't bring up the past b/f anymore, because it is a topic that will cause unecessary insecurities, jelousy's and unecessary self conscienceness. Keep the past where it belongs...behind you both. Good Luck, Judy
Well, if your boyfriend doesn't seem to care, then I think I would move on and not dwell on it. If, however, you don't want to be "that" person that sleeps around a lot and has a high number of people you've been with, then I think you will have to stop doing that. Make sure you only sleep with people you are in a real relationship with from here on out. We can't change our past but we can change or future. good luck