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attachment
My problem is...i get attached to people very easily and in very less time...people hurt me ruthlessly....evn whn dey knw...m very polit and caring....i never show attitude or ego...so nw people around me takes me fr granted.....wat to do nw...??:-(
As a young person you are closer to God and heaven, I believe. I think that's why children are so naive, they have not come to understand the challenges of this world and are only learning. It can be very disillusioning to look at the reality that some people are not kind, and have succumb to the cruelties of the world. Some people fight against the cruelty, some are active participants. You are right now , fighting in your own way, against the cruelty. Stay that way. Do not become cruel yourself. The best way to do that is to get our of ANY situation, familial or otherwise, that would draw you into becoming familiar and therefore at risk of a negative change in your own personality.
Have you thought about counseling to help you through these turbulent times?
Have you thought about counseling to help you through these turbulent times?
Thankz alot for ur support and advice...i m 21 and dun understand being 21 years old....why m so weak in judgng people around....why i consider all of them so kind....
Becoming too attached too early can be a recipe for disaster. I believe that you should hold back when meeting new people, by not telling everything about yourself. Many people that you're becoming easily infatuated are doing the same, and holding back. So, what you're doing by becoming attached so quickly is that you do not have all the facts, and you can be hurt by this.
Being kind and generous with yourself is only a problem when dealing with unscrupulous people. Before becoming "involved" with someone you must know them for a time, to find out whether they too are kind and generous, or not.
If you're around people that take you for granted, then move on. It's a big world. Make sure that you can look after yourself, financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually. When you can check all of these boxes, there's nobody that will be able to take advantage of your kind spirit.
Please don't think that you have got to stop being kind. Don't become like them. Two wrongs don't make a right. Just.... hold back and work on yourself. I think that you're worth some therapy to help you gain an understanding of how not to be hurt, don't you?
Lots of help here, lot's of friends to make. You're not alone. Peace be with you.
Hugs. Liz
Being kind and generous with yourself is only a problem when dealing with unscrupulous people. Before becoming "involved" with someone you must know them for a time, to find out whether they too are kind and generous, or not.
If you're around people that take you for granted, then move on. It's a big world. Make sure that you can look after yourself, financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually. When you can check all of these boxes, there's nobody that will be able to take advantage of your kind spirit.
Please don't think that you have got to stop being kind. Don't become like them. Two wrongs don't make a right. Just.... hold back and work on yourself. I think that you're worth some therapy to help you gain an understanding of how not to be hurt, don't you?
Lots of help here, lot's of friends to make. You're not alone. Peace be with you.
Hugs. Liz
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