I have been married for 15 years, most of which I have been unhappy. My husband travels 4 days out of the week and on those days we often just have 1 brief phone call with each other. When he is home he still does not seem to want to talk to me or spend time with me. I used to try and talk to him but after being shut out for so long, it does not seem worth the effort anymore. I feel like a bother and I feel like he plays mind games with me and is passive aggressive. He avoids having discussions with me and is very distant. I do not feel like I even know him and I feel like I annoy him. I often look forward to when he goes out of town, but then I am also very lonely. But when he is home I feel that I am constantly trying to read his mind and keep peace, otherwise I fear he will give me the cold shoulder and shut me out even more. He does not like to discuss problems, but he does chose to ignore me or be particularly cold if he is upset with me, while not telling what is wrong. I feel inferior and in the way and like I am expecting too much to want to be an equal partner in this marriage. I have been a stay at home mom for 8 years and would like to go back to work part time, but he does not think that is a good idea. I think he might be okay if I did find a job, but I have such little self-esteem that I am scared to try. And part of me would like to separate from him, but before kids I barely made enough money to support myself if needed. Now I do not know how I could support myself plus 2 kids. I just think separating might shake him up enough to prompt him to fight for our marriage. Something needs to give. I am very intimated by him and just feel like he does not like me very much. And I have been overeating for a while now - partially because I am lonely, depressed and feel out of control. I know he thinks I am fat and he does not like this, but if I loose weight it has to be for me, not him. From past experience I feel that loosing weight for him might make him happy for a while, but then he would go back to shutting me out.