does he love me?

[jnitro26]

here is my story we have been together for 5 years now, and on new years he invited his ex and her boyfriend over and my dh and his ex were flirting the entire time i got so mad, then about two weeks ago he said he had feelings for her, but nothing i should worry about, but the thing is they talk everyday and no matter what he is doing he drops everything for her, she gets all of his attention, and he always wants to hang out with her, i asked him if he wanted me or her, he said me, but im having trouble understanding what is going on, and they have a 6 year old daughter together, and he always talks to her about our marriage. i dont know what to think or do. am i second best? i said something about them being best friends and he said if i dont like it, i need to find someone else.i asked him why she gets all of his attention, and he said becasue she is different, and then he told me to leave the subject alone, we havent talked about it since and he never gives me any affection.
any advise would be greatful sorry so long.

[jo929]

your post does not sound like you are very happy and i can not blame you how long has this been going also it sounds like he is pushing just to see how far he can if you are not careful he will walk allover you where is your self confidence dont ask him tell him how you feel and if he does not stop all of this leave it seems as long as he can have his cake and eat it to he will do it stand up for yourself. i would not let the other wife take over. this is your life and your husband just ask him which he wants and if it isnt you dont show him any tears just leave with your head high even tho you feel like your heart is breaking some men like to treat woman like this and the woman has to put up with it or stand up and say no more   lots of luck  jo

[Raine9]

Your situation sounds a little strange.  This is your husband right?  So, why is he dropping everything for her?  She gets all of his attention because she's different?  Doesn't make sense.  You should be getting the attention.  

It makes sense that he has to communicate with her because they have a daughter together but it sounds like (from what you wrote) that it goes beyond that.  

I don't know your entire situation based on what you wrote but it doesn't sound like he's giving you the attention that you need for whatever reason.  You sound unfulfilled and unhappy.   If he doesn't change or compromise, you need to consider giving him an ultimatum.