If she threw you out, she threw you out. Dont bother going to see her if you have no interest in trying to save the relationship. If you want to try to save the relationship.... you're either going to have to set some new ground rules or let her tug you around by the chain she'll put on you. Oh yeah, quit lying.... the truth hurts, but the truth sets you free.
I completely agree with specialmom. You aren't ready for a real relationship. My boyfriend and I know exactly where the other one is and what they're doing and who their with. It's not that we control each other, but it's out of respect. But if I found out that he was lying to be about ANYTHING, even something little, I wouldn't trust him as much anymore. You can't lie in a relationship, unless you really don't care what happens. You just need your space, and to give her her space. She's going to need to get over the fact that you lied to her, and try to trust someone else eventually, which will be a lot harder now. I think you just need to get your act together before you start really dating again.
I actually feel a little differently here. I think you should leave her alone but for a different reason. You made your own bed----------- you blew it. You can't have life both ways. My husband doesn't just go out with his guy pals and party when he feels like it, right? He's got a wife and kids and we talk about our schedule and what there is and isn't time for and if we have free time, what we really want to do with it. If there is extra money, what we really want to do with it. Etc. You resented that aspect to a serious relationship which indicates you are not ready for one. No matter how much you miss her, you are not ready to be with someone in a serious way yet. Hopefully you will be someday.
I'm sorry you are hurting--------- but at this time you probably can't be the kind of boyfriend either she wants or you would like to be. So date women casuelly.
And ex's that feel mistreated sometimes like to share---------- whether to warn someone else so they don't suffer the same fate or to make it clear to the person that hurt them that they didn't appreciate it. It happens even though calling someone's significant other is immature.
No cut your losses and run,the damage has been done,this relationship sounds doomed from the start,the rows the controlling and the ex which you got involved with again whilst you were on a break,i think you really need to be on your own for a while,go out and reaqante yourself with your mates and your life again.