What do I say?

[love138]

This man helped me with something and I appreciate the fact that he helped me out because he didnt have to do anything and I thanked him but since then everytime he sees me he wants to try to hook up and asks me for # and its becoming irritating. I should of told him I had a bf or was involved but when I was casually talking to him I told him I didnt and I didnt think that the conversation would lead into him trying to hook up with me. Now everytime this man sees me he asks me for my # its just not a simple "hello" as far as being an associate. He jokes around saying things like "hey future wife" and everytime he sees me ask me for my #. I have no interest in this man at all. He doesnt have any business and just hangs around all day- no job or anything. How do I tell him that im not interested? Just tell him directly in a serious tone? I thought he would get a hint after the last 3 times that I didnt give him my #. Someone told me I should just give him a fake # and call it a day

[love138]

It's seems like that's what he's doing, ignoring negative feedback. In the past I guess I didn't freeze these guys off right away but eventually got them to back off. literally every guy that approaches me now days I have no interest in or are no good and it irritates me and if I see someone who is attractive or seems ok, they never approach me or I miss out on them. He helped me out once. I didn't think he would have any interest.

[VICourageous]

I agree here..Just tell him Thank you for helping me, but I am not interested in anything further..Be real and Be true..This is Him and his way not yours..I bet he has done this many times thinking that giving or helping someone would be the key to a relationship..Not to sound mean, but in the future watch out what men are offering you..There are some sickos out here.
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[RockRose]

love,  the reason "these type of men" are always interested in you is because you don't freeze them off right away.  I was like you when I was young - and was constantly asking why do these men force me to be rude to them?  They just WILL NOT take friendly feedback and back off.

You know why?  Because there are men who will keep ignoring negative feedback until you are clear about it.  Most girls are pretty clear in their feedback,  I wasn't.  I was very kind and diplomatic.  Which works great the first or second attempt,  you don't want to be cold and hateful.

But at this point,  he's purposely not getting it.   "I'm really not interested in a relationship" is a good statement to make,  in a bored tone,  and then turn and walk away.

[ROSYouralright]

Posted to soon! Stand your ground and be done with him once and for all. Best of luck.

[ROSYouralright]

Good

[love138]

I can't be friends with this man and I don't want to and i don't want to act as if I want to. He wants something more than that and I'm not interested at all.

[love138]

I agree. I'm not going to give him a fake number. Then he'll get mad and I don't know what he'll try to do because I do see him around often. I don't even want to engage in conversation with him again.  I'll just be straight forward with him. I thought he would get it by now but it's starting to annoy me. I guess he wants something in return just because he helped me out when I didn't ask him to do anything he volunteered and I told him thank you. I really don't understand why these type of men are always interested in me. He asked me like 3 times and then said we can start "as friends". I don't want to be his "friend" either.

[ROSYouralright]

I agree! Just tell him you appreciate his help and would love to remain /be friends but you aren't interested in" hooking up"

[Londres70]

"How do I tell him that im not interested? Just tell him directly in a serious tone?"..........................Yes, just tell him directly and firmly; nothing more and nothing less.  No need to be mean.  

"Someone told me I should just give him a fake # and call it a day."...........No need to play games, i.e. passive-aggresive, with the man as that is only inviting problems especially if you see him around often.  Besides, this sounds childish anyways.

[AnnieBrooke]

Tell him that you appreciate that he helped you because he didn't have anything to gain by helping you and he did, and that makes you understand that he is a nice person.  Then tell him that you are not interested in going out or hooking up, and you don't want to give him your number, and that his persistence is not welcome to you.  You might think you are being mean, but it is simpler in the long run for him to get the clear message plain and simple.