i need advice for this Ex-wife..

[alyssahann]

helooo..i need an advice from you..im 24 years old.my fiance is 34 years old a divorce man & have a 5 years old daughter..i haven't meet his 33 years old Ex-wife but i get to know her through 1 of social network..obviously she found me first..so we kinder become a good friend in this social network..i respect her because she the mother of my fiance's daughter..but the problem is..lately i've notice something about her..sometimes she keep asking me..where do i & my fiances going out..what he gave me on birthday...its like she wanna know everything about my privacy life.she even say to me 'How life become his wife?Tough Is it?"eventually im not married yet with my fiance..i dont think that is nice but more to..i dont know bad stuff i guess..i get the feeling she wanna back into my fiance life..when i told my fiance about it..he told me..His EX was only for the past..now he have only me..i try to be nice to his Ex because when i & my fiance get married her daughter will be my step daughter..i don't want this ex wife will be BIG issue when i get married..i love my fiance..is just that i need some advice of it..

[specialmom]

Agree with the above.  iam1butterfly is correct to keep the communication open and friendly.  Don't cut her off completely as then she will become angry with you and the relationship will be more difficult with your step daughter.  I think you can just be vague when she questions you about personal things regarding your fiance.  And slowly extricate yourself from these intrusive conversations.  Try to keep the contact friendly but to a minimum.  But do it slowly so she does not become upset or mad.  

Good luck with your fiance!

[iam1butterfly]

Keep an open line of friendly communication as you will need to establish and maintain a civil relationship for the sake of the child (your future step-daughter). However, I would draw the line there... and not divulge private and personal information about you or your fiance as it's really none of her business. To make life simple for all involved, it's best to keep a respectful distance.

[clyons11]

I would cut back or eliminate contact with her. That seems like it can do nothing good, in my opinion. You can respect her as a mother and a woman, but you don't have to be friends with her. Hopefully then she won't be such a presence in your life-- there's no need for her to know the details of your relationship. Easier said than done, but I'd give it a try and hope it goes smoothly.