i think he hates me

[babychick1991]

Hey everyone I hope yas can give me some advice. I'm 20 years old and have been with my partner for 3 years now nearly 4. I love him more than anything we talk about everything well we used to. My dad moved away in febuary and left me and my boyfriend in my house with nothing. We survived for a while. Now he is living at his mums and all we ever do it argue. We don't talk any more he doesn't tell me he loves me no more. To be honnest all he wants is sex. I really think that's all he wants out this relationship. The worst part is I think I may be pregnant. Can someone please advise me on what I should do. Thanks xxx

[AnnieBrooke]

Still confused.  You are personally in 85K in debt over the house?  In other words, you signed the mortgage?  Who is on the ownership papers of the house?  If it is just your dad, you don't really have any obligation, you could move on.

[babychick1991]

Short story. I was living with my dad and boyfriend. My dad got a new lass and randomly one day left with her I was in bed and didn't have a clue. Dad and mam weren't speaking and he asked her to come to my house which we thought was strange. Anyway he told her to tell me that he was never coming back to me. He left me in 85 grand ov debt on a mortgaged house, no shopping 3 dogs and 2 puppies. I havnt spoke to him since 24th feb he left on the 25th. So me and my boyfriend asked my mam if she would move back in to keep the house going and she has. I'm living with my mam and my boyfriend moved back in with his mam. Ever since then we barly talk or anything. I think it might have something to do with the fact my bf looked up to my dad as he didn't know his

[cheshchesh819]

Well it sounds to me that your boyfriend likes it as long as he is being kept,as long as he is having everything put on a plate he is happy,sex food everything,this is quite obvious as the minute your dad has gone and there is nothing coming in he runs to mummy,noone can tell you what to do,and i hope that the pregnancy is just a false alarm,but if it isnt you need to tell him to man up and start supporting you,if it doesnt work you just have to stop him treating you like this and move on.

[AnnieBrooke]

Your dad left you and your boyfriend in what house?  In other words, are you paying rent or are you just sitting in a house that someone else owns, or is it your dad's?  It seems like you have to get the food, lodging and job stuff (that is, you having a firm job) answered, before you and your boyfriend can get anything straight.  If you look at him as your one and only lifeline and he is getting tired of it, no wonder you are fighting.

I'd say no to sex with the guy if you are arguing all the time.  And of course, go get a pregnancy test like yesterday.  If you are pregs, I would consider putting the baby up for adoption.  Being without any means of support at all is no way to begin life as a mom, and it's a particularly tough row to hoe when you are really young and probably will be alone.

[sweetpea03]

Well first off, find out if you are pregnant or not.

Also, have a talk with your boyfriend and ask him where he sees the relationship in 5 years. That will tell you a lot about how he views the relationship and what he wants.