i think i am falling in love with a married man

[athomas04]

First of all to say, he is 25 and hasnt even been married for a year yet, We met almost 2 months ago and i knew he was married. But he was a huge flirt and from that night later on that week he told me he has neveer felt that he wishes he wasnt married, I said no way of any relationship since he was married but i was so attracted to him. He had a job in another state about 2 weeks later and i went with him. We hitted it off. He is so swwet to me, holds my hand and treats me like his girlfriend. And that weekend we did not have intercourse. It was my decission! This weekend i spent the whole weekend with him again, and i think im falling in lovr with him. He told me its hard, he cat just have a divorce that easy.  If he was olf and had children and was married for a long time i would just leave him. But hes young and has no children. Hasnt even been married for a year. He has even told me he likes me a lot and even asked me if i was in love. But of course i didnt answer that. I need advice what do i do? no i dont wanna leave him. What can i do to help him get a divorce? please help

[Shyladybaby27]

I am a newly wed less than a year of marriage if my husband cheated on me i would bedevasted. I cannot tell u what to do as it is your life and your choices. What I can tell you though is he is not the man for u because leopperds never change their spots. Stay with him and its ur turn next I guarantee you that you will end back up on here asking for more advice when he falls inlove with someone else. If you were so sure he wanted you you would be here asking any questions cause he would have left his wife of less taht a year that he has no obligtaions to for YOU already. WAKE UP THE MAN IS HAVING HIS CAKE AND EATING IT TOO

[sweetpea03]

You have another post about being pregnant. Are you pregnant from this married "man"??

[AHP84]

You've known a 25 year old "man" for only two months, who has just made obviously empty lifetime vows to his wife less than a year ago, and you're asking for advice on how to help him divorce his wife simply because you "hitted it off" in less than two weeks from meeting him?

Seriously, re-read what you just wrote and ask yourself how this makes you look. Desperate, careless, insensitive, and immoral.
There are plenty of other men whom you will find attractive and treat you sweetly, with whom you will share common interests, and who are un-married and available. Guaranteed.
Walk away from this cheater--or run, rather--as fast as you can.

[specialmom]

Hi.  I wrote a lengthy response to you last night and my computer imploded.  This will be shorter.  

It is within your power to resist things/temptations that are not good for you.  This is not good for you.  Statistically, what will happen if you do indeed succeed in having him divorce his wife and be with you is that it will end badly anyway.  That is the common path for things that start in this way.  So, be good to yourself and avoid that.

When picking a partner, we need to hold them to certain standards.  You need to raise your expectations regarding what you want in a man.  Character is everything.  Honesty and integrity are high on the list of things that make a man desirable.  Where does this guy stack up?  Not great.  You can do better and should do better for yourself.

I would lose his number.  If HE decides to divorce his wife------------  then without contact with you and when it is all over, he can reconnect with you as a single person.  Otherwise, you just go on your merry way living a good life free of drama of this sort.  

You have the power to do this.  Stick to your guns and set yourself up for a happy/good life verses having a cloud hanging over you and your relationship for its duration.  good luck

[Kayannaboo]

What if u had a husband and ur a newly wed and he's out there holding other people's hand?? Sometimes we need to put ourselves in someone else's shoes. It's actually worse that he hasnt been married a year because that would mean that they are trying to build a life together only to have someone step in and break the building blocks before they even go up. What are u thinking? I do not judge but from the moment u found out he had a wife u should have stayed away.

And from the way u keep making excuses we know that u know it's wrong. Come on now girl where's the pride?

[TTinKKerBBell]

Among the "qualities" you apply to this man you MUST include that he is a cheater and a liar.  If he doesn't have morals and standards then you should rely on your own morals and standards to walk away.  This is wrong and you both know it.

Ditto sweetpea03:   He will cheat on you also.
Ditto getitright77:    Recipe for disaster

If you stay with this man you are asking for what you're going to get.  My sympathy is with his wife.  I wonder does she know yet what he is??

[RainLover71]

A receipe for disaster.Walk away.

[sweetpea03]

What you need to think about an realize is that if he does this "with you", than what makes you think he won't do this "to you" with another woman? Do you really want to be with a man who thinks of marriage in such a poor light and willingly flirts, hangs out with, and is looking for sex with other women other than his wife? Put yourself in his wife's shoes and think about it. You really need to walk away from his right now and actually find a man who is available. This man is scum, that he is going out of his marriage looking for a fling. You deserve better,  someone who loves you and will want to be with you 100%. Not with a married man who looks at you as just some fun thing for the time being.  Stay away from him and move on.

[heatherw26]

Nobody is going to help you with an adulterous affair.

What you're doing is absolutely horrible. You are helping to ruin and marriage. Have you stopped to think what HIS WIFE will think? He's married. He's not in love with you. He's telling you what you want to hear so that you keep tagging along like a sad little puppy.

He's married and he won't divorce for you. If you bring it up chances are he'll drop you like a sack of hot potatoes for someone else who won't care that he's married and she's nothing more than an extra piece on the side. You will always be second...until he has children than you'll fall to 3rd, then 4th, 5th, so on and so forth until he's done having kids...or until he gets bored with you and moves on.

Have some self respect and move on. Find someone who isn't married and can give you more than an illicit affair. Find someone who can actually love you.