i want my family back

[ilovemyfamily2015]

I was with the mother of my child for a year and my daughter is 3 months old my ex started to lose attraction for me and we havent had sex since the baby was born she claims im not manly enough for her i lost my job and everthing went downhill from there i express that i love her alot all the time and she claims i pushed her away and im emotionally abusive because i was trying to force her to love me and she wants stability in her life and i wasent giving it to her. We moved into togather and now she put me out and dosent want to talk to me at all do you think i can get her back and what should i do tofix this? I want my family back

[specialmom]

Ya know, I have to just say that there seems to be something amiss here.  She is used for sex by a famous singer and you are still hoping to be with her.  This should bother you.  Bother you to the point that you might question if she is a good person for you to be with .  She's obsessed with another man.  This does not bode well for a future with her and in all honesty, it makes me wonder why this doesn't make you want to run the other way.  She wants stability in her life and yet she is chasing a dream that according to you is really only on her side of things --  allowing herself to be used for sex.  

Now, I don't judge and we all have our own reasons for what we do.  But I guess that last post makes me wonder where this is headed and why you so desperately want it besides the fact that she is the mother of your child.  DO seek visitation and stay close to your child.  peace

[ilovemyfamily2015]

No im not on drugs im 23 and trying to figure things out she claims she loves me another person who is 30 and a famous singer but he shows her no attention and does not want anything but sex with her but she is obsessed with him and he lives in atlanta. Thats kinda hard to work against. I feel that i need to focus on myself and give her space and time to miss me drop things off for my daughter  

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Very sorry to hear of the situation.  I can tell you how badly you feel about what is going on.

I would say that you need to focus on some of the things that deal  with YOU before expecting a reconciliation.  This includes getting your job on track, fixing anything else that may be an issue (is there anything going on that you aren't mentioning?), etc.  This is essential.  Focus on this.  Fix these things and then your wife is going to be more apt to feel confident that you will be a true partner as she is now saying she doesn't think that is the case (when she talks about needing stability in her life).  

Once you've done that, you can think about repairing the relationship.

I know that is hard but think this is what has to happen.  You DO have a right to see your kids though (as long as you aren't using drugs or something like that.).

Does this make sense to you?