me being bi

[cowboy20022002]

I dont undstand why if  a lady loves me and care for me that she can not exsept me being bi it has been 4 yrs since i been with a man

[gator145]

The impression you pointed out in your last response is not the impression I was trying to convey......

What one deems a healthy relationship  may very well be view by another as very unhealthy and vice versa....
One cannot have a sexula relationship based on the acceptance of society....That is a personal issue and I, ( my belief ) Believe that choice should be respected......

There are more people of various sexual prefrences in our midst than care to maki it public..... Maybe its the butcher, the barber, the mechanic,the hygenist, etc that is so respected by all......  One of the biggest reasons is a lack of understanding keeps them from making their choice public...........  So these people are all around us and accepted in the role they chose to live....... The day comes when the decide they want to make it public.... At that point they lose the respect they once had and the way they are percieved is turned completely around.....


Now, I know there are religious doctrines that are totally against various sexual prefrences..... Those doctrines are only for those that believe in that religion.......But without getting into that, I truly believe a persons sexual choices are a private matter....Agree or disagree, there is no clear reason that I can come up with that I would have to know anothers choices on the subject.....

[SeriousSam]

Wherever did I give you the impression that any of what I saw were either healthy or even vaguely successful relationships?

[lonewolf07]

I know I'm not Gator and probably offended you; however, IMHO, I think your experience with "bis" probably gives you a far more accurate picture of healthy SEXUALITY and relationships of any kind .... where love and respect count for more than sexual preference.

[SeriousSam]

Societal Mores.  If a person has problem with a society they can either try changing the society or move to one more accomadating.  However when you change a society do not expect people to be either thankful or happy but rather look first to see if you caused anything else to change that was more fundamental than your personal comfort that was more vital to the societies health.

[SeriousSam]

I have to admit having a bisexual mother, sister, gay (1 male+1 female) cousins I do have a different perspective of bisexuals in hetero relationships.  Plus seeing my daughters best friend all torn up because his mom broke up with his dad and immediately moved her girlfriend in...  My perspective of what makes the ingredients of a healthey hetero relationship is probably hopelessly skewed by my own admission.

[lonewolf07]

Nature does not produce freaks.  You and I are here aren't we = P