moving& BD situation

[riaa0815]

See I've always been a thoughtful person even when i'm put through the worst. Now see i'm thinking about moving out of state sometime by the end of febraury to live with my bestfriend, to get a better education, better jobs and live in a safer area. But even though my BD (babydaddy) has put me through the worst is it right to take his child away from him? The baby isn't born yet but by me moving I feel like it will be the start of a new life which would include me taking all visitation rights from my BD and putting him on child support. Are my decisions good for the best of me&  my baby or should I consider my BDs feelings though he had verbally&  physically abused me&  now is only worried about having new girlfriends?

[Miss_Direct]

Go make a life for yourself and your baby?

[Londres70]

Yes, key words are "documentation" and "seeking legal advice"  as the two posters have stated.

Get yourself prepared now and be ahead of anything he may try to pull.

All the best.

[specialmom]

Make sure you record a history of his abuse as well.  Any pictures??  Anything like that is good to keep record of what has happened  good luck dear but you MUST protect yourself and your baby and this man is unsafe.  I read the other post about his abuse and he is dangerous.  Peace and good luck

[AnnieBrooke]

Talk to an attorney or someone at a legal aid clinic, so you do the right thing all the way.  Don't go with what you "heard," get your information from a legally trained person who knows.  You might have to come back into the state to do your court filings if that is true.  Talk to someone in your location who is either a lawyer or a paralegal that does this kind of work.  A lot of Legal Aid clinics do boatloads of divorce and child support stuff, because that is one of the biggest problems people have that they need legal help for.

[riaa0815]

I heard that you couldn't file for child support until the baby is born.

[Londres70]

Agree with both the above posters; absolutely.

[AnnieBrooke]

Get your child support legal orders together before you go, and be clear with everyone involved that you will be out of state, so he cannot use it later as an excuse not to pay up.  

[specialmom]

If he has physically abused you, then yes, I think it is just fine to move away.  He might not be a safe person around a child either if he has shown a temper and anger management problems.  If you were to stay, I'd ask you to give your history of abuse to the court so that visitation was supervised.  I think moving away would be a smart thing to do at this point.  good luck