Hi.
So theres this best friend I have, he's a guy.It was a weird start to the friendship, as the first time we started talking was when I admitted I had a crush on him, and at that point he told me in the nicest way possible that he didnt have mutual feelings, but had feelings for one of my oldest friends. at the time I was hurt and felt like de ja vu as this has happened to me many times before with the same old friend.
But in recent weeks, we have been hanging out so much, weve been talking everyday, somehow.and talk about everything. A few weeks ago he wrote me a letter telling me how much I meant to him as a friend etc. and it meant so much to me.
Last night we even went to a salsa dancing class together, it was so weird for me coz i was so nervous about dancing and then also with him.
Ive been having feelings for him a lot more lately and its driving me crazy coz i dont know whether i should just act normal so he doesnt realise, or to distance myself. Im so scared our friendship will not remain. He has become a rock to me, we have late night convos about everything and anything and he comes to pick me up in the middle of the nigt if we are both hungry and we go out and eat and just chill.
It's my first real friendship with a guy so im not sure how to approach any of the signs or whether he is just a generally nice guy, i am trying to put in perspective if id hang out as much or do the random things if it was with a chick mate.
I don't know if it is mutual, and if it is how to approach the subject. or if it isnt, then what? I love the time we spend together and wouldnt want to break our friendship for anything in the world.
People who see us and know how much we talk and hang out think we are a couple coz of the amount of times we are around eachother.
It's a hard topic coz i know guys think differently to girls, girls generally anylise everything and guys are more relaxed, so i dont want to do anything stupid or over react to the situation.
Any advice or anything at all to help would be most valuable coz ive come to a point where I don't know how to handle the situation anymore.
Thanks