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My BF is white and im black and recently there was a comment that was told to me on Facebook( i know that stupid social network) that im basically a bad person because my BF and future husband is white IDK how to feel about this im angry but sad i dont want my kids grownig up in a world like that. I mean i guess you can say im not the "typical" black person you see on BET b/c i sound "white" but its not my fault that i speak with good grammer..now typing it on the other hand is a diffrent subject LOL, but im hurt and confused i though society was evolving but maybe i was wrong HELP IDK WHAT TO FEEL or WHAT TO DO
Mixed race relationships still are not perceived as normal, and that's too bad. I'd suggest that you guys wouldn't be greeted everywhere by everybody with open arms. Personally, I don't get it. With the two of you being together, it doesn't concern me. It will have absolutely no effect on me.
Too many people are far too concerned with what other people are doing, and I guess it's human nature to judge to some degree. If your relationship is solid enough, the two of you will be fine.
Too many people are far too concerned with what other people are doing, and I guess it's human nature to judge to some degree. If your relationship is solid enough, the two of you will be fine.
Well guess again! We have not evolved all that much and if it bothers you now, your in trouble because it is more or less accepted depending on what part of the nation you live in and it is same with gay people.
So.... If you two are in love that is wonderful but you better make sure your love is strong enuff to stand up to the bigots of the world cause yes, there are gonna be some struggles along that line. If you are not strong enuff or your love is not strong enuff, then you might want to reconsider when it comes to marriage with this dude. It is what it is, and you can either accept it or not. But is still an issue and dont let anyone tell you it aint. Now how is that for bare truth. Someone just needs to call it sometimes the way it is. Sorry!
So.... If you two are in love that is wonderful but you better make sure your love is strong enuff to stand up to the bigots of the world cause yes, there are gonna be some struggles along that line. If you are not strong enuff or your love is not strong enuff, then you might want to reconsider when it comes to marriage with this dude. It is what it is, and you can either accept it or not. But is still an issue and dont let anyone tell you it aint. Now how is that for bare truth. Someone just needs to call it sometimes the way it is. Sorry!
thank you so much i really appriate every thing you guys are saying its just so helpful to have people who have been through the same thing kinda there to give you advice exspecially when your 20 yrs old and you really dont have much experience in the world yet. but again thank you all
It is no one's business but yours and your boyfriend and you can't live your life according to the opinions of others especially like this kind. It is not easy, but ignoring such comments is your only choice unless you are willing to get out of this relationship and let others (strangers or friends) make your choices for you. Build a strong bond between you and keep those who don't agree far away from you and don't let yourself be exposed to them any more than you can help. The more you feel secure about yourself the less the opinions of others will get to you.
Bottom line is, only the two of you have to be okay with the "racial issue". Of course, it would be wonderful to be in the good graces of both sets of parents, but if they have no problem, just let it go. Ultimately, besides your parents, you two are the only ones to be worried about.
As the above poster said, tell the nay sayer to go kick rocks. Its none of their concern, absolutely none! And really, if this person is a friend, reconsider the relationship. If they are not a friend, keep em that way. Life's too short to worry about what some inconsiderate jerk feels about your relationship.
With that said, you will run into people on the streets who have an issue with an inter-racial relationship. That type of thing has gotten so much better during the last couple of decades.... and again, your relationship affects nobody else. They can have an opinion, and let them. Their opinion is one you needn't concern yourself with.
Be happy!
As the above poster said, tell the nay sayer to go kick rocks. Its none of their concern, absolutely none! And really, if this person is a friend, reconsider the relationship. If they are not a friend, keep em that way. Life's too short to worry about what some inconsiderate jerk feels about your relationship.
With that said, you will run into people on the streets who have an issue with an inter-racial relationship. That type of thing has gotten so much better during the last couple of decades.... and again, your relationship affects nobody else. They can have an opinion, and let them. Their opinion is one you needn't concern yourself with.
Be happy!
Hey Hey Hey!! You know what dating outside your race is like the best.. i mean im black.. wife is white..son is brown.. thats good math huh?? lmao.. but seriously...what your doing is strong and good.. because if you and your hubby have kids... you basic help cancel out being one actual race.. being mixed which will one day cancel out racism.. and issues like the one your having.. But im gonna tell you something i've learned... Its you and your husband, so tell other to go kick rocks.. because you found your love, and they seem to have jealousy against you, because you chose to be diverse. So with him by your side you two stand strong and tell other.. what are you staring at? You never seen a man love a woman... or say it vise versa!
You are going to have to learn to let these comments just roll right off your back. The more you show a reaction and that you are hurt by this, the more people will find it entertaining to try to make you upset. That's just how bullies are. My fiance is hispanic and I am white. We've had our fair share of comments about our interracial relationship, but I never let it get to me. Not to mention we are also in an age gap relationship, which led to more comments. Though if you are happy in your relationship, then it should not matter what someone else says about your relationship. It's about the 2 of you in the relationship, the other people do not matter.
You already knew there was a "black vs. white" issue when You began this Relationship. That being said - I think society has evolved and there is not the stigma that once existed for Interracial Couples. There will probably always be some who are "prejudiced" on BOTH sides of the spectrum BUT Interracial Relationships are more widely accepted today than ever before and You are SO much more understood and accepted than were Your predecessors. - SO - go Forward Girl!! - and Rejoice in Your Relationship!! Your future Children will be embraced by many - I'm one of those who will embrace them!!
So - just Feel what You Feel and Do what You Do!!
So - just Feel what You Feel and Do what You Do!!
You have probably heard this before but if you really love someone the colour of their skin makes no difference and also it doesn,t matter what anyone else thinks as long as your happy in the relationship and he is to that,s all that should matter.Go with your heart and don,t let anyone get to you.Take care.
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