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question-- bullying/ parent role
So, as a parent, what do you think our role is in bullying of our children. If we are the parent of a child who bullies, how do you think we might have contributed? What do you think we should do to combat it?
Of a child that is bullied, what do you think we as parents have done to contribute to it? And what do you think parents should do to combat it?
Of a child that is bullied, what do you think we as parents have done to contribute to it? And what do you think parents should do to combat it?
Oh SM..............sorry to hear this isn't close to being resolved. Sounds like they needed to hear all sides to the story before making a decision about what to do, but interrupting your son definitely wasn't right. Plus, they failed to notify you about this. Shameful. It makes you wonder about these people working in the school system. Ugg.
I sure hope you went to the school and gave them a piece of your mind; I don't blame you. You know I would.
I hope your son doesn't clam up and not say anything because he fears he will be punished.
School just seemed simpler when we were younger.
Hang in there. Hugs!
I sure hope you went to the school and gave them a piece of your mind; I don't blame you. You know I would.
I hope your son doesn't clam up and not say anything because he fears he will be punished.
School just seemed simpler when we were younger.
Hang in there. Hugs!
COMMUNITY LEADER
thanks mrjames. It's disturbing to me how our school is handling things. I found an article that I think really speaks volumes,
Here's the link:
http://www.greatschools.org/parenting/bullying/4923-a-father-fights-bullying.gs
I've written about 7 emails and put them on hold. They are all very stern. I'm trying to come up with the right way to express how I'm feeling. My kid took months to come forward and is treated as if he is equal to the bully and given what is in his a consequence. That's just flat out wrong.
And really doesn't help this out of control, volatile kid. Grrrr
Here's the link:
http://www.greatschools.org/parenting/bullying/4923-a-father-fights-bullying.gs
I've written about 7 emails and put them on hold. They are all very stern. I'm trying to come up with the right way to express how I'm feeling. My kid took months to come forward and is treated as if he is equal to the bully and given what is in his a consequence. That's just flat out wrong.
And really doesn't help this out of control, volatile kid. Grrrr
sorry to hear what you and your son have been going through , when my son was at school the kids would take turns in being in charge , the kids would vote for a team leader , they would sit and talk about things like bullying and sort out these issue , , with what has been happening to your son and the other children is a criminal offence it appears in Youth Courts . the bully is breaking the law and it needs to be stopped right away .
COMMUNITY LEADER
Still terrible. Very disappointed with how our school has so far addressed it. This week, the boy pushed my son down face first on the playground, then another boy tried to get him to stop and threw a handful of mulch at him and then the bully went totally off his rocker screaming and started throwing mulch like nuts and ran over to another boy watching and punched him. That boy went and told. I told the school about my son being pushed down. The next day, he yelled at my son and his friends but they stayed silent and then a new kid in the school said "nice shirt" to him and he ran up and kicked him in the groin.
so, guess what the school did. Called MY son, this boy, the boy who got hit, and a friend of my sons and the bully got the opportunity to tell his side (he's picked on which is total bs) and my son said his side and got interrupted. he felt like he was in trouble in an equal way to the bully. AND, the principal restricted my son to a certain part of the playground which is actually NOT the playground where the equipment is that they hang on but the outer area (the field). The other boy has to stay on the playground which is closer to the school.
So, my son who was afraid to tell and I told him it was the right thing now feels like he got a consequence. Great! Blah.
I'm calling the school on Monday for a meeting as this is unacceptable. This boy hurt three different kids physically that I know of this week. My son has NEVER gotten in trouble, not even one time like this.
Feeling unsupported by our school. Ready to really give them a piece of my mind. The school says they have an intervention plan in place and are taking things seriously that I've told them and are bringing the boys parents in.
Maybe they did this to make sure my son is safe but I wasn't expecting it and they didn't tell me first. Pretty lame plan in my opinion.
Sorry, this was new news to me tonight and I'm really frustrated right now. :>) thanks for asking and support!
so, guess what the school did. Called MY son, this boy, the boy who got hit, and a friend of my sons and the bully got the opportunity to tell his side (he's picked on which is total bs) and my son said his side and got interrupted. he felt like he was in trouble in an equal way to the bully. AND, the principal restricted my son to a certain part of the playground which is actually NOT the playground where the equipment is that they hang on but the outer area (the field). The other boy has to stay on the playground which is closer to the school.
So, my son who was afraid to tell and I told him it was the right thing now feels like he got a consequence. Great! Blah.
I'm calling the school on Monday for a meeting as this is unacceptable. This boy hurt three different kids physically that I know of this week. My son has NEVER gotten in trouble, not even one time like this.
Feeling unsupported by our school. Ready to really give them a piece of my mind. The school says they have an intervention plan in place and are taking things seriously that I've told them and are bringing the boys parents in.
Maybe they did this to make sure my son is safe but I wasn't expecting it and they didn't tell me first. Pretty lame plan in my opinion.
Sorry, this was new news to me tonight and I'm really frustrated right now. :>) thanks for asking and support!
Hey SM...........how are things going with this bullying situation?
I would take this straight to the Board Of Ed!
I had something very similar happen with my son. He's 5 and started kindergarten this past September. Everyday during outside playtime a boy would harrass my son for whatever he had brought with him for that day. For example.. my son has a MindCraft video game keychain that he would hook I nto his jacket zipper. That little boy was shoving and pushing my son and insisting that my son give up his keychain. That particular day, my son came home from school and I was snuggled up on the couch next me and he says "Mommy? Can you buy me another MindCraft keychain?" I said "Why would you want two of the same item Joshua? " He says with a sad pouty face "So the mean boy doeant keep mine.. I like mine."
I felt so horrified for my son. Hes a gentle soft calm loving little boy.He goes through his "own" toys once a year to give the toys and clothes he doesnt want/fit him anymore. He has such a kind soul. To hear that he was being mistreated made me feel so bad.
It seems majority of these incidents happen during recess! Even from other parents talking, they say the same thing RECESS. All I could think was of what these teachers DO while these kids are fending for themselves out on the playground?! Gossiping? Certainly NOT watching over our children that for sure!
I took this whole situation straight to the Board Of Education! My son hasnt beem bullied since.
I had something very similar happen with my son. He's 5 and started kindergarten this past September. Everyday during outside playtime a boy would harrass my son for whatever he had brought with him for that day. For example.. my son has a MindCraft video game keychain that he would hook I nto his jacket zipper. That little boy was shoving and pushing my son and insisting that my son give up his keychain. That particular day, my son came home from school and I was snuggled up on the couch next me and he says "Mommy? Can you buy me another MindCraft keychain?" I said "Why would you want two of the same item Joshua? " He says with a sad pouty face "So the mean boy doeant keep mine.. I like mine."
I felt so horrified for my son. Hes a gentle soft calm loving little boy.He goes through his "own" toys once a year to give the toys and clothes he doesnt want/fit him anymore. He has such a kind soul. To hear that he was being mistreated made me feel so bad.
It seems majority of these incidents happen during recess! Even from other parents talking, they say the same thing RECESS. All I could think was of what these teachers DO while these kids are fending for themselves out on the playground?! Gossiping? Certainly NOT watching over our children that for sure!
I took this whole situation straight to the Board Of Education! My son hasnt beem bullied since.
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