y is it that women try n break relationships up

[cheekydonna22]

well me and my man have been dating for 3 n half months before i even met him hes daughters mother (angela) tried to stop me from seeing him saying nasty things about him it wasnt long ago when she showed me a message from my mans phone(joel) say we could have some fun on the side of the road lol thats the only message angela showed me i asked joel about it and he told me that it wasnt like that at all when they went ghost hunting a long time ago joel tried driving off without her i have said to joel that i dont want to be cheated bashed or treated like a child from another man i want to be treated right so angela tried breaking me n joel up that night it didnt work with me so now i get a phone call from joel coz hes at work saying angela was calling me a try hard tough ***** a person that has alot of issuses with ex bf's n stuff saying to joel that he could do so much better i asked joel what he said and he said to me he was inorging her and just saying shes my girl and u dont have to like her but dont fight that all he asks i hate her but i put up with her i dont know y she is playing these games she has done it with all of joel ex gf's she wont break us up joel thinks that she only started coz joel told her that her child support is gunna go down and she will be charged for lying to centrelink and child support
i dont know if i am strong enough to handle all this petty ******** i have had it most of my relationships which really ***** balls angela trys to hint for sex with joel and joel tells me which gets me mad but its better for me to upset have a lil cry then go get mad and go smash her i am trying to better myself but she makes it so hard i have to be good shut my mouth coz joel wants to go get full custody of hes daughter(shannon) which i love her to bits i love joel to bits too what can i do for this to stop ANY IDEAS!!!!!!!!!!

[cheekydonna22]

thanks every-one i have had a very big think well down the beach hehehe and yes i am going to stay with him i think well shes living a very sad life if she trys things like this she aint gunna break me n joel i am better than her and she knows it and hates it with a passion joel is going for full custody beacause anglea keeps giving up custody to her mother and not asking joel which joel really hates coz he is the father and he does have rights and hates that shannon gets moved all around perth i think she has moved schools like 4 times and she has only in grade 1 which really ***** she doesnt know joel has told me but we r both very open and talk about everything which i love she doesnt know i have got angry or anything and next time i see her coz joel goes see's her brother kalven she lives there i am gunna be all bubbly like i always r and yes i will be all lovey dovey i dont care joel has said to me he will never have her back as she cant be trusted i could understand if joel had broke it off with her but she is the one who left with shannon and didnt let joel see shannon for like 3 years..... yer i know
and joel has also told angela she cant be trusted and said to me that if i wanted her back i wouldnt of got with u or my ex gf's joel said to me lastnight he loves me very much and i said it back i see it as she needs to grow up n get over him coz i aint going no where she can try all she likes she doesnt know joel is taking her to court for full custody so it will be a huge shock for her when he does bahahaha and i will be standing next to my man head held high and smile to ear to ear
i aint listening to her ******** no more i know she is out to break us up and it aint gunna work me n joel r very strong minded and she will get the shock of her life when things go down it will be so unexpected i cant wait

[cheshchesh819]

just ignore her,she is doing it to get a reaction and at the moment she is,getting one she will soon get bored if you stop playing her childish games,she is jelouse,and she is making you feel the same why as well as insecure,if you have nothing at all to worry about with joel then just let him fight for his daughter and you just be there for him when he needs you,show you are the stronger woman and rise above this exs ways.

[mami1323]

Please don't take this the wrong way but I think that perhaps you are choosing men that are similar and that may be the issue.  You've had the same issues in a past relationship and now you are repeating that same type of relationship with Joel.  I just don't feel like 3 months is a really long time to put up with this kind of bs.  I'm talking from experience here.  My fiance and I had a very rocky beginning.  His ex was very manipulative and was forever trying to break us up.  She succeeded partially but we ended up together anyway.  If I knew then what I know now I would've just walked away.  Yes, I am still with him but looking back it really wasn't worth all the drama.  I gave her way too much power fighting for him.  That's what she wanted, a challenge and I was feeding into it.  The minute I walked away and said, you can have him, well that's when she didn't really want him anymore.  So my point is, the harder you fight for him, the more she will do whatever it takes to make your lives miserable.  It's unfortunate to because they share a child, therefore they will be in each other's lives forever.  You will be dealing with her for a long, long time.  That is exactly why I said, take a step back and let him handle his business.  But again, that is all up to you.

[kay2486]

i think she wants him back and is jealous because hes got another woman and shes alone, the worst thing you can do is let her see you angry, you can **** her off by smiling and being all lovey dovey if you see her.

i got accidently pregnant with my boyf we'd only been together 10 months and it wasnt even a proper relationship to be honest, when id found out i was pregnant none of my mates believed me this was because he was dating one of my mates mates if you get me, we got back together and made it work 6 1/2 years later we are living together and got two little lads.

women are poisonous if they see something they want they will do anything they can to ruin it for the other person

DO NOT use violence especially if you partner wants custody of his child this will be definate no no for him then he will blame you, even worse you could end up in jail and lose him for good.

why does you boyf want full custody of his child? is the mother badly treating the child?

usually this has to happen before the dad can apply for custody

[cheekydonna22]

i dont want to leave my man i love him so much before i met joel as i have said she said nasty things so when she tried breaking us up i kinda believed it but didnt coz i knew thats the way she is joel will never have her back but coz she not with anyone she still wants a root from my man like hell i say i have put it down angela cant handle joel happy with some else she even tried telling me joel hit her i was like ha well we muck around and we really get into it so whatever i dish out i expect back i say but people take it the wrong way which *****
my ex boyfriend last year david he never had kids to this women but she was so bloody obessed i came so close to smashing her face in but no i kept my cool for david(my ex) she knew i moved back to victoria which she was happy about but now im back in western australia she doesnt come anywhere near me which i think is sooooo funny

but again with my relationship now the current one i have had this obessed thing with most of my ex bf's i just want to know how i can stopp it what do i have to tell angela i know everything u say about me and me n joel r happy if u cant handle that well grow up????? i just dont know i know i am not scared of her i could bring her down like a bad of crap but if i do hit her then when my man goes to court she could say i am voilent n stuff which will really mess with joels court stuff and plus i am trying to better myself not get into punch on's n so on do u guys think i should go see a counsellor just so i can blow off some steam i ma trying my hardest for not to get under my skin i know she is a very jealous women coz she can see joel happy n smiling when where together oh well i might see what happens on saturday or sunday hrmmmmm i will fill u guys in soon thanks for that girls xx

[imanaddict]

Don't let Angela get to you, plain and simple. Call it what it is...nonsense! She is obviously trying to get under your skin and it's working. Cut off all contact with her completely and let Joel deal with her and their child. If he is a good boyfriend he will ask her to keep the conversations limited to their daughter only and leave you out of it.

[mami1323]

You have to consider whether you want to be in a relationship that has already begun with major drama.  It's not like you've been with him for years, this is a new relationship.  This is supposed to be the fun times, and it doesn't sound like much fun.  My recomendation is, let Joel go, let him handle his business with his ex and his daughter.  When he is free and clear to start a relationship and he has things in order, than see if you want to be with him.  There is too much back and forth and it seems like his ex probably has her reasons for not wanting you two together.  It seems like maybe they aren't really done with each other.  Good luck.