I feel like i dont want any man, its not getting better

[michelle1233]

i was in a long relationship, i broke uo with my boyfriend of five years because he was so possessive of me and there was just no chemistry at all. he kept complaining about how we wern't sexually active anymore and i just got tired of his nagging also, so i left him. i saw about two or three guys after that, one was unfaithful, another was married then the last one seemed to be perfect but then i found out that he is ridiculously busy, runs about 4 or 5 businesses. he's always so busy! the 5yrs ex, wants me back, i dont want him back. the married guy wants to make me a second wife, i'm uncomfortable with that too bt i think i like him and the businessman cannot commit, he just wants to have fun, i dont want that because i'm scared it will end up hurting me...

please doctor, i need your help, what can you suggest for me. i feel i dont want either one of them & and i want ANY MAN EVER AGAIN, is that possible?  

[peggy64]

I'm with the other 2. Where is it written we have to have a man to be complete. If we can't be happy by ourself, we sure aren't going to be happy with someone.

If you are more secure with yourself, you will be more ready IF and WHEN the right one comes along.

[iam1butterfly]

"... I feel like I don't want any man..."

Well, there are times when I can certainly relate to that statement!
But, if that's how you really feel then, then you might want to do what specialmom has wisely suggested, and take a break from dating. Use the time away from relationships as an opportunity to sort out current conflicts while gaining perspective on which way to pursue future relationships. As the saying goes, "... when in doubt, don't."

[specialmom]

This is not the expert forum----  just so you know.

But I think I would forgo all three of your romantic possibilities.  The past boyfriend is one  you don't want to be with.  You've experienced what it is like to be with him and your brain says no. So no.  The guy who is so busy that he doesn't have time for you would not be a great catch for a relationship either, as you've already seen that.  So, no to him to.  The one who is married----  well that is crazy talk.  He's MARRIED.  He has a real lack of character and rest assured---  if he makes you wife number two, wife number three is right around the corner.  So, he isn't good as well.

Dating is not mandatory.  I think if a woman spends time being independent and strong on her own, she  is in a much better position for dating.  So, I'd continue to work on yourself and not worry about finding a man right now.  Counseling may help you sort out some of this.  What you are really looking for and how you may be able to obtain it and why it hasn't happened to date.  But it seems to me that until you do this---  you may continue to make bad choices I wish you luck----  you are not the first woman to find herself in this situation.  Just do your homework to figure it out.