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what would you do
Ok my partner and I have been back together now for four months after breaking up for two years, he says he loves me and only wants to be with me but we have not had sex or been intimate since he moved in. all I keep getting is different excuses and its starting to hurt our relationship. I'm not a cheating type of man and he even says he has a good man but there is just no sex and its really starting to get the best of me!!!
What would you do????
What would you do????
Hi I am sorry I replied to Marcus177 but meant to respond to Sexlessme instead.
There could be many reasons and as we dont know the background to your relationship I can just give you some thoughts that came to mind... Could your boyfriend be depressed? that can interfere with your feelings for sex. What caused you to break up the first time? are those issues still there? Could he hold some resentment from that and is still angry but not able to say it so withholds sex as a passive aggresive way of punishing you. Or withholding sex as a way of protecting himself from being close to you, scared that you might hurt him like before( not saying you did, but just putting it out there).What reasons does he give for not having sex? could they be legitimate reasons? ( stressed at work? too tired? family troubles, not feeling well? etc etc) Do his reasons sound valid or just excuses? Is he on medication? that can interfere with peoples libido. Do you think he is happy in the relationship? Do you get on well outside the bedroom? because if you are having troubles then sex can be one of the things that suffers. Or could this be just a bad patch that most couples go through and things will work themselves out naturally in time. Good luck. Let us know how you get on.
There could be many reasons and as we dont know the background to your relationship I can just give you some thoughts that came to mind... Could your boyfriend be depressed? that can interfere with your feelings for sex. What caused you to break up the first time? are those issues still there? Could he hold some resentment from that and is still angry but not able to say it so withholds sex as a passive aggresive way of punishing you. Or withholding sex as a way of protecting himself from being close to you, scared that you might hurt him like before( not saying you did, but just putting it out there).What reasons does he give for not having sex? could they be legitimate reasons? ( stressed at work? too tired? family troubles, not feeling well? etc etc) Do his reasons sound valid or just excuses? Is he on medication? that can interfere with peoples libido. Do you think he is happy in the relationship? Do you get on well outside the bedroom? because if you are having troubles then sex can be one of the things that suffers. Or could this be just a bad patch that most couples go through and things will work themselves out naturally in time. Good luck. Let us know how you get on.
There could be many reasons and as we dont know the background to your relationship I can just give you some thoughts that came to mind... Could your boyfriend be depressed? that can interfere with your feelings for sex. What caused you to break up the first time? are those issues still there? Could he hold some resentment from that and is still angry but not able to say it so withholds sex as a passive aggresive way of punishing you. Or withholding sex as a way of protecting himself from being close to you, scared that you might hurt him like before( not saying you did, but just putting it out there).What reasons does he give for not having sex? could they be legitimate reasons? ( stressed at work? too tired? family troubles, not feeling well? etc etc) Do his reasons sound valid or just excuses? Is he on medication? that can interfere with peoples libido. Do you think he is happy in the relationship? Do you get on well outside the bedroom? because if you are having troubles then sex can be one of the things that suffers. Or could this be just a bad patch that most couples go through and things will work themselves out naturally in time. Good luck. Let us know how you get on.
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