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STD scare
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I am 23year old male. I have met a guy older than me, we have seen each other couple of times and last time we had sex. I asked him before is he really healthy and all and he confirmed he is. We had protected sex (I was the one receiving), but other than that we have been kissing, I gave him oral sex, but it wasn't really much of a sex cause I was mostly kissing around his pennis with my lips and maybe once put it in my mouth during it. Other problem is that he ejaculated and part of him sperm might have (I am not 100% sure) have got in contact with a small cut I got from clipping nails (small bleeding stopped in a few minutes after) about an hour and a half before the risky moment. I am very worried. I contacted him again, he assures me that I am worrying about nothing but I am still doubtful. Can you give me advice what to do and am I at risk?
I am 23year old male. I have met a guy older than me, we have seen each other couple of times and last time we had sex. I asked him before is he really healthy and all and he confirmed he is. We had protected sex (I was the one receiving), but other than that we have been kissing, I gave him oral sex, but it wasn't really much of a sex cause I was mostly kissing around his pennis with my lips and maybe once put it in my mouth during it. Other problem is that he ejaculated and part of him sperm might have (I am not 100% sure) have got in contact with a small cut I got from clipping nails (small bleeding stopped in a few minutes after) about an hour and a half before the risky moment. I am very worried. I contacted him again, he assures me that I am worrying about nothing but I am still doubtful. Can you give me advice what to do and am I at risk?
I probably will. Thanks for reply Vance. I was freaking out that I might have gotten anal STD infection cause of my fears above (little spit and lubricant). i see I am just probably Nobel Prize winning HYPOCHONDRIAC. This occured to me before and usually is done in day or two. But I will speak to the doctor. Thanks again, I feel like you saved my life :)
See a Dr, this is not a STD related issue.
Again thanks for help so far, I need to add one detail that happened/noticed last night.
As I couldn't help myself I started checking my anus for anything unusual. But I was unfortunately started pulling myself too much and I noticed small bleeding inside but only after basically trying to see my insides on out (isiot). My assumption is that I have caused a tear on my own cause of both my anus and hands very relatively dry. I had this similar situation before I was even sexually active and had some slight problems with hemorroids, but of course now it has put some doubt I want to clear. Is this possible to do on your own like I think?
As I couldn't help myself I started checking my anus for anything unusual. But I was unfortunately started pulling myself too much and I noticed small bleeding inside but only after basically trying to see my insides on out (isiot). My assumption is that I have caused a tear on my own cause of both my anus and hands very relatively dry. I had this similar situation before I was even sexually active and had some slight problems with hemorroids, but of course now it has put some doubt I want to clear. Is this possible to do on your own like I think?
I do believe now. I am sorry again for being, well rude. But as migth have seen I am one of those people that not only think they are always infected etc, I also tend to think that people do not understand my questions always as i think they misunderstood cause it's not very usual one, as you can see I was asking about very hard to no transmission ways so well. ANYWAY I am just too scared and my scepticism is what makes it worse. You are people that really gave me hope and again I am sorry for this trouble.
Thank you all for help :)
Thank you all for help :)
you keep asking over and over again if any of this is a risk and we keep telling you no. why don't you believe us?
grace
grace
Again sorry if repeating myself and all, it's because of anxiety but I just need a comment on my two posts prior to this very one. Thank you in advance.
It is beacuse I didn't discuss that kind of indirect anal transmission with doctors.
It is beacuse I didn't discuss that kind of indirect anal transmission with doctors.
Additional question: Just in case (which probably isn't) there was small trace of pre cum, would it be possible to infect me with with such means of transmittion, first getting on lubricant then on hand then another dose of lubricant on my anus and then penetration?
Tough I have to admit with writting this question I see how low probability for this is.
Tough I have to admit with writting this question I see how low probability for this is.
So basically this whole description I mentioned (that something from lubricant (that got on it from his hand that he used to lubricate pennis without condomn and had possible traces of saliva) might have rubbed into my anus because we had anal sex cause of sensitive muscose membranes etc) is no risk at all?
Sorry if you covered the question already but I just want to make sure we understood each other.
Sorry if you covered the question already but I just want to make sure we understood each other.
No risk at all. Vance2335 really put it into great perspective of how really this is not a risk. Fingering with the same hand, either in or out of your anus, does not constitute as a means of std transmission.
Basically I am asking if there is a chance that something from putting lubricant on his pennis before condom might have gotten on his hand and then on lubricant that he put on my anus and then spred inside my anus when we started sex. What is the risk for this? Same with saliva. i have to say that his genitals didn't show any sign of pre-cum or anything strange visible.
Vanice I have one more question.
I posted similar thing in HIV section and Teak told me I am to no risk.
Before anal sex he lubricated his pennis. Then he put condom on and then used same hand (I think) to put lubricant on my anus. After that we had anal sex. Also before this he liked his fingers and touched (wasn't fingering) the outside of my anus. Also I didn't see him precuming at all but I just didn't see.
I suppose this is not the way things work but just to check is this a risk for other STDs, or how much of a risk?
If there is any more detail you need to know just tell me.
I posted similar thing in HIV section and Teak told me I am to no risk.
Before anal sex he lubricated his pennis. Then he put condom on and then used same hand (I think) to put lubricant on my anus. After that we had anal sex. Also before this he liked his fingers and touched (wasn't fingering) the outside of my anus. Also I didn't see him precuming at all but I just didn't see.
I suppose this is not the way things work but just to check is this a risk for other STDs, or how much of a risk?
If there is any more detail you need to know just tell me.
STD's have that name for a reason...you have to have some form of sex for transmission, not casual contact.
Thank you Vanice for reply.
I will go to consult a doctor, though two previous told me I was only under stress without any serious reason. Like I said I will go to consult.
I have one more question. In case I got some STD... any kind, am I posing a big threat to my family or friends? Cause I am not sure how long will it take to get tested for everything (if I get to that part via doctors) so that my results are good (I know for window periods but other infections take time too).
It's day 8 for intercourse and I feel fine.
I will go to consult a doctor, though two previous told me I was only under stress without any serious reason. Like I said I will go to consult.
I have one more question. In case I got some STD... any kind, am I posing a big threat to my family or friends? Cause I am not sure how long will it take to get tested for everything (if I get to that part via doctors) so that my results are good (I know for window periods but other infections take time too).
It's day 8 for intercourse and I feel fine.
My assestment stands
Thank you, though I am worried about that with cut. It is still healing but no bleeding since little initial, it wasn't really big one. Scissor cut.
Oral was like i described, like I said mostly fast movements with little contact with inside my mouth.
I mean, I am aware that there are 0.0000001% chance in any kind of sex but still. I would really appreciate any suggestion if there is at least a thing to be doubtful about.
Oral was like i described, like I said mostly fast movements with little contact with inside my mouth.
I mean, I am aware that there are 0.0000001% chance in any kind of sex but still. I would really appreciate any suggestion if there is at least a thing to be doubtful about.
Well protected sex is no risk. Kissing is not a risk and your oral sex doesn't sound like true oral so basically no risk.
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