Cunnilingus - my private hell

[nando80]

Hi everyone! Been diving into many websites, got here to Medhelp, which seems to gather the most realistic data so far... Read several topics answered by Dr HHH, back in 2016, which honestly gave me some sort of relief. Anyway, I can't avoid asking...

I'm a male. Been to a full naked body massage, so far zero risk. During the session, things got hot and I performed cunnilingus on the therapist. Won't lie, it was great, but dumb. I had no sores, rashes, whatsoever in my mouth, tongue, throat and I am pretty sure I saw none of these at the ladies vagina/outer lips, as well as I could not smell anything weird.

Sexual activity was limited to naked body rubbing (no penis rubbing vagina, no vaginal, no anal, no fellatio), cunnilingus and a handjob.

Previous topics answered not only by Dr. HHH, but many community members seem to agree on this being a low risk STD activity. I'm struggling to be convinced on that, despite not being sure on what is low (0%, 5%, 30%) but when I "get out of here" and reach google, damn, it's all about how practically any sh*t can be contracted orally.

I wonder if any of the community members, general folks here, physicians, have some more recent data or some have been diagnosed of heard/seen anyone with STD's from cunnilingus. Sometimes it feels like I'm doomed and destined to get infected, others feel like I'm being paranoid and idiot.

I get that each STD has a window/timeframe, should I test for them? Usually at what, 2, 3, 4 weeks after the exposure? Should I just wait, do no test and watch for symptoms?

Sorry for being so dramatic...

[GuitarRox]

Welcome and there is a lot of information to read on the site. Dr. HHH is a guru.  His advice as read on this site on many posts is to not test for such a low event (giving oral to a woman) unless you develop symptoms.  Keep in mind, risks given for oral are often talked about in terms of giving oral to males where transmission could take place deep in the throat.  If you develop a sore or blister, get it looked at.  And remember, that the issue would ONLY be in your mouth.  You don't give oral and have genital herpes on your genitals or syphilis on your genitals.  It's all in your mouth.  You do not need to test unless something develops and nothing likely will.  

[nando80]

Hi GuitarRox! Awesome to get feedback so quickly. I hope I can do the same to others... I appreciate what you say about "bad things" being restrict to the mouth (an information not easily found outside medhelp), as well as the caution to not enroll immediate STD testing. I'm trying to convince my mind that being infected, by anything, in a single cunnilingus act, would be, at least, like winning the hellish lottery. Guilt is a bi***.

[GuitarRox]

Don't allow guilt to put your anxiety into overdrive and keep this in perspective. It's unlikely you got an std from this so distract yourself from worry until some time has passed and the anxiety fades.

[nando80]

Thanks for the kind - and honest - words. Now one thing I noticed (and hope I learned), you're not ready for what's going to happen when you're faced with a sexual "opportunity". You may think you know how you will behave, but that may not be the case. I thought I wouldn't do it, but at the end, I did it and despite every bit of concern, I must say I enjoyed every moment.