Herpes/syphillis

[scaredfemale388]

I realized that I have asked a lot of questions on here, but I feel that on this site, I have gotten the best advice and the most patience and understanding, especially from Grace and quite a few. It is almost by a two weeks to the date a year that I had gotten diagnosed with hsv 1 and negative on hsv 2. Since then I have slipped into depression, lost the person I acquired it from and found someone new. But my fears and self disgust I guess you would call it is keeping me from being comfortable with him. It is at a point with him and I that he is ready to be intimate, while I want to and am very skittish. I know that I have to have that "talk" with him, but the settings have not been right. he always wants to go out and do things and I feel that telling him is something that I should do with us being alone. I have also noticed that I have been scared that I might have other things to.. My main one was hiv. I had once read an article that stated that with herpes and bv it made you more susceptible to hiv. I have since tested four times and been negative ever since. However him and I have played a little, and by play I mean him fingering and I have given him oral sex.. I trusted him at the time and really feel like he is safe. I have had a post on her about giving oral sex with ejaculation if there is risk for hiv and got told i was not at risk. I am relieved. I am so tired of being so scared all the time and worrying do I have this and do I have that. I have been tested at the health department for Syphillis, Gonorrhea, chlamydia, hiv and herpes before, but I understand that hsv 1 does not get detected in blood tests, so now i know why i tested negative twice before. I tested negative for Gonorrhea, Chlamydia and Hiv, but can't remember my results for syphills, but this testing has been years back and i have not been active since. Am I right by thinking that if I had Syphillis that it would have appeared by now? Would I have been sicker? Should I worry? I am so sorry that this is yet another question and is so long, but I am worried. Thank you again for your patience and hope to hear your opinions soon.

[gracefromHHP]

you are worrying needlessly.

[scaredfemale388]

what did you think of the questions i asked about syphilis, i cannot remember my results so what do you thing in regards to those questions

[scaredfemale388]

thanks for being patient with me.

[scaredfemale388]

I know that hsv 1 is common but my concern now is that i dont remember my syphillis results .. should i be worried about that.

[gracefromHHP]

60% of adults under the age of 50 have hsv1. it's THAT common :)

[scaredfemale388]

thanks again, and i know that they did test me, i just don' t remember the results.. that was four years ago... do you think that i would have to worry about it since i have not had anything but the hsv 1 show up.