My friend and I had a little bit too much to drink and messed around a little bit. We masturbated ourselves and then masturbated eachother. We also shared the same sex toy. If one of us has herpes and the other does not, how likely is it that we infected the other person? From what I’ve read online, it is very hard to transmit the virus from mutual masturbation since it isn’t direct skin to skin contact and the virus loses its viability quickly on inadament objects like hands and toys. We had no genital to genital contact and no oral contact. I had no sores present and didn’t have a break out as far as I know. Freaking out that I passed it along to her considering we are both married and all good friends. I believe this would kill the friendship.