STD from Protected Sex?

[hooked35]

Here we go...I visited an escort on December 29, 2009 and engaged in protected oral and vaginal intercourse.  Neither was performed very long as I was uncomfortable and finished very quickly.  I did notice that the escort had quite a bit of vaginal secretion/lubrication during intercourse, which was noticeable when I removed the condom (she was using some form of creme based lube?).  After removing the condom I washed myself down with a hotel towel and quickly left.

This past Thursday (January 14) my wife stated that she started to feel a considerable amount of vaginal itching and this threw my world into a tailspin.  This is my first visit to an escort and was prompted by a deep depression that has sunk in due to our unexplained infertility (28 months of trying unsuccessfully).  

I have not developed any symptoms, but am aware that males often will not.  Is this a yeast infection? BV? trich? chlamydia? what are the chances of having contracted any of those STDs when using a condom? and is it possible considering the timeline?  

thanks for the advice anyone can offer.

  

[hooked35]

you're right. it's literally eating me apart. i am looking for symptoms and feel as though i am actually creating them.  ugh...lessons learned this way are unbearable.

[2terrified]

Has your wife gone to the doctor for it?  Why don't you start there?  Trying to guess isn't going to solve anything.  If it is an std (which I highly doubt), you going to a clinic and getting cured will not help her unless you tell her and she does the same.

Or maybe you should just tell her anyway.  The guilt seems to be eating you up at this point.

But what I am saying is that if she goes and it is not an std, then there would be no need to tell her, break her heart, and add on to the sadness she no doubt feels as well.  Lesson learned.

[hooked35]

Thanks for your advice, but I am still concerned about my wife's irritation, and this may be leading to my current symptoms (tingling in tip of penis and desire to urinate).  I plan on seeing a clinic but am aware that they have difficulty testing for trich in men. any other thoughts?

[2terrified]

First of all, yeast and BV are not std's.  Secondly, condoms are about 99.9% effective against std's when used properly.  So, if it didn't break, then you were not likely at all to get an std from this encounter.