I had unprotected sex a while back and I'm anxious

[Arobertson15]

Hi,

I appreciate such a question will have been asked a million and one times but I would like some advice on an issue that has plagued me for a while, if anyone would take a few moments to help. I'll try be as brief as possible.

I'm a 28 year old, straight white male from the UK. I've had a 3 girlfriends (3 sexual partners and always wore a condom). I am not promiscuous, never had a one night stand and I try to look after my general health, (I play sport and stay active, gym etc).

Pretty much 2 years ago, I was in a relationship with a girl I met at university, who I'd known and been friends with for a number of years, and for the first time in my active sex life, in the heat of the moment, we engaged in unprotected sex for maybe 20 seconds (if that), before we came to our senses and stopped. We didn't have a condom and no further sex happened that night. We broke up a few weeks after this, due to different circumstances.

I guess I grew panicked and she evidently saw my concern and reassured me she had no STD's, she even showed me a text she apparently received from a sexual health clinic after her most recent check (I didn't see a date however) which showed all clear, although she said she wasn't checked for HIV. She mentioned she had an unprotected one night stand a little while before our relationship begun which was why she got tested and this became the main root of my worries. Her previous boyfriends have all been white, middle class guys. For one reason or another, I never got checked which I know is stupid (I was nervous, I still am about the wait for results. But I kinda gave up on the whole relationship thing)

As mentioned prior, this happened 2 years ago, I have not had a relationship since or any sexual contact. I've been on dates but nothing has worked out. After my relationship with my 3rd girlfriend broke down, I decided to take some time out and sort my career and life out and I did, and continue to have trust issues in people (which I'm working on), due to certain reasons and I do suffer from a bit of anxiety from time to time but it's not debilitating.

I have been online and at times convinced myself I have HIV, Herpes, Syphillis, Chlamydia etc etc and focused intently on things and sensations that probably aren't there or I'm accentuating in my head.  

The reason I post today is that I have finally begun a new relationship with a girl who I very much like and do not want to put her at any risk whatsoever. I am going to go get checked but I wanted to get this off my chest.

My questions are after, 2 years, with no obvious symptoms of anything (no pain during urination, discharge etc), and barring occasional sinus issues and allergies I appear to be in good health thankfully.

- Could I still have contracted anything bad and be asymptomatic even after 2 years? Like HIV, Herpes, Chlamydia etc
- Does the very brief exposure count in my favour?
- Not long after my one unprotected encounter I had to go to the doctor for sinus issues (sinus infection) that have always plagued me and I was given a weeks course of Amoxicillin, would this have helped remove any infection I may have had at that time?

Thanks

[Life360_Dave]

Hi with things like gono and chlamydia, if you did contract them they would have cleared up by your bodies natual immune system after 2 years. With hiv and herpes they would not but not having any genital blisters developing about 2 weeks after the affair or even since, you can pretty much rule out herpes.
With HIV, it should not be a concern either as you fallinto a low risk group even though its high risk for unprotected sex. You can take the DUO test for hiv if you concerned and the herpes blood test as well. But again i would not be overly concerned about either.

[Arobertson15]

Oh, i've just seen I could have responded directly to your comment. I'm still getting used to this.

[Life360_Dave]

Yes they would come back negative in my years of experience.

[Arobertson15]

Thank you so much for helping me with this. It's hard to convey via the internet, but i'm most grateful to you for taking the time to help me.

[Life360_Dave]

It would be best to get tested for your new girls protection. Just a matter of principal and its not so much the limited time but the risk group. Your in a low risk group but unprotected sex is high risk. It does not take a doctor to advise that unprotected vaginal sex is risk for acquiring HIV.

[Arobertson15]

I appreciate that entirely, it was a stupid mistake to make. In your opinion though, considering the facts and your knowledge on STD's, would you say i'd be ok and the tests will come back ok?

[Arobertson15]

Hi, thank you for responding. I've only just seen how long that post was so I sincerely appreciate you taking the time to respond. I don't normally post on forums so to get help in this way is very nice. Are you a doctor? You say i'm a low risk for HIV? Would you still consider testing? And finally, do you think the limited duration of the encounter would work in my favour?

Regards