Well I'm on the same boat I'm 29 with my bf since March 2016 and only been with him since then I'm 8 months pregnant and recently got it (syphilis and hereps ) from my boyfriend this is the 2nd std he gave me and is saying I'm the **** etc he took a test but doesn't want to show me proof ..
I am in the same situation except the other way around .. They say I gave it to my women. But yet I have never cheated on her .. Ever .. Don't think I could .. And I do believe she did not cheat on me ... So how is this possible ??? Can I have had it for years and just past it to her now ?? I have never been tested for std's before till now ....
yes due to hipaa laws you don't have a legal right to know her test results but I'd discuss with her that in the interest of your marriage, both of you talking to her provider about this is the best idea since trust and honesty are important.
if she still refuses to do so, I think you have your answer as to how she contracted it don't you?
The only way you can get the real truth is for her to tell it to you. Have a real conversation with your wife and try not to get into the investigation mode. Just sit her down and tell her you know she cheated, and it's virtually impossible that this is congenital, so ask her to give you the whole truth. As your wife, she at least owes you that much.
Sorry, I didn't mean to start givng out relationship advice, but the facts are, this is not congenital. Like Vance said, you can go on the net and find all the information you want, we have all read over the facts and have a good body of knowledge when it comes to STD's and that's why we're here. Sorry you're having to deal with this.
Yea I think her claim that it is congenital is completely ridiculous. The medical provider, her gyno, will not tell me anything because she says its "patient confidentiality" (never mind the fact that I am her husband, and an STD could affect me!). She has had the same gyno since she was a teenager and would not be surprised if they are agreeing to keep the truth from me. I'll find a way to discover the truth. Thanks for your reply
Thanks for your reply. I don't know what her teir number is, or what that is. I'll google it :)
your wife wouldn't be testing positive for syphilis now after testing negative multiple times. too late at this point since she's underwent treatment to retest to check for false positives or to make sure she was properly tested in the first place.
if your wife had had congenital syphilis , she would've known about it because if she hadn't spent time in a nicu soon after birth and had proper treatment for it, she either wouldn't be alive today or would be severely mentally handicapped. it's also not likely she'd just now be testing positive for it from that and they also wouldn't have felt the need to treat her from that.
perhaps you two might want to make an appointment to talk to her medical provider who did the testing together to discuss this more and go from there?
If you want medical sources then look around the internet, we are here to give you educated answers.
Syphilis is only transmitted sexually from direct contact with a syphilis sore. A false positive is possible from a syphilis test, but her statement of having it since birth is probably not truthful because she would have tested positive in the past. Do you know what her teir number is?