STD risk from kissing and receiving oral sex

[SoConfusing200]

hi, i just read this article from Dr Jose Gonzales-Garcia, MD: medhelp.org/user_journals/show/154498/Can-I-get-HIV-through-oral-sex

conclusion of that article is that HIV chance in receiving oral sex is very low, but i wonder how low is the chance to get other STDs like herpes, HPV, and syphilis?

and comparing unprotected oral sex (as receiver) and protected vaginal sex, which one has more risk, and why?

also, can i get herpes (and other STDs) from french kisses? if yes, how high the chance is?

[feelingundone]

That really is a question that has to many variables to answer. Oral sex is considered safe sex with only a few std's possible and theyou are unlikely.

[SoConfusing200]

feelingundone, thanks for the answer. i hope i wont be bothering you again after this time. i just want some confirmation. Considering you are actively answering people's question here, I really hope you are OK with me asking you one more time..

in your previous comment, you mentioned unprotected oral sex is considered safe sex (though not 100%, which i understand), and the typical STD risk for oral sex is Nongonococcal Urethritis (ngu), HSV1, and gonorrhea.

I know there's blood test for HSV1 but how about gonorrhea and NGU? Is there a test to find out in case we have asymptomatic infection for ngu and gonorrhea?

the reason why I ask this question is because: I ever got chlamydia from unprotected vaginal sex like few years ago. I consulted with my doctor at that time and she said the only test available for chlamydia was through swab test. HOWEVER, the swab test could only be performed if we have symptom (the liquid coming out from our penis). So for people with chlamydia but without symptom, there's no available public test. that's what she said. Also, gonorrhea supposed to be similar with chlamydia (liquid coming out from our penis), so i assume there's no test either for gonorrhea unless we have the symptom

Although at that time I experienced the symptom (and yes, i did take the medicine that she prescribed and got cured), but that statement made me paranoid with future sex activities. I mean, if it's true that there's no test to find out our asymptomatic chlamydia/gonorrhea infection, how can we find out if we are fully free from those infections? Because i did my research online and apparently it's not rare for people to have asymptomatic infections.

So if one day I choose to have sex again and receive unprotected oral sex, how do I find out about gonorrhea and ngu (assuming i never experienced any symptom)?

thanks. anyway, im sorry for very detailed question. As someone who ever battled with STDs before, i'm much more careful than i ever was. you know...i hope you understand.

[SoConfusing200]

hi, i was not comparing unprotected oral sex (as receiver ) VS unprotected vaginal intercourse. I was comparing unprotected oral sex (as receiver) VS protected vaginal intercourse.

I mean, people keep saying using condom for vaginal intercourse is highly effective. how effective condom (for vaginal intercourse) as compared to unprotected oral sex (as receiver)? Thanks.

[feelingundone]

Very low risk from kissing. Nearly zero if no cold sore is present.
Yes hiv is rarely if ever contracted that way.

Receiving oral sex is a low risk exposure. Hsv1, gonnerhia and ngu are the only real possibility  and those are extremely low risk. Syphilis is possible but highly unlikely and is extremely rare for receptive oral sex.

Unprotected vaginal Intercourse is far riskier than oral. Hsv2,chlamydia,gonnerhia,ngu,syphilis,hpv and hiv are all possibilities. Hiv and syphilis are unlikely due to syphilis in the US is uncommon in hetero couples and hiv is a long shot. The others are common. Oral sex is much safer. Now condoms will offer great protection for all std's. It's not perfect for herpes or syphilis but still very effective.