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Am I bisexual?
I am an 18 year old girl and have never had a boyfriend. Ever since I was little, I have been "boy-crazy". But in 2nd grade, a female friend and I hid once, and decided to kiss a few times. Just to see what it was like. Ever since, I excused it as natural curiosity of a child. IS that natural, though? 4 years ago, I had my 1st REAL kiss. I was hanging out with a guy friend and we had a thing for each other (which we didn't know until we kissed). I still am "boy-crazy", and have normal thoughts/feelings that "average" girls do about guys. But recently, I've noticed I'm starting to think of girls like that too! I know I still like guys, so there's no possibility of me being a lesbian, but I'm wondering if I'm bisexual. Does anyone know how to tell for sure if I AM bi?
Thank you everyone for your insight. I'm currenty figuring things out, trying to find who I really am, etc. But I think I've come much closer to a conclusion, now that I have evaluated my behavior, thoughts, feelings, and even looked at some online info (highly credible info). Thank you for helping me figure myself out.
Most people, on a scale like this:
1 - totally heterosexual to 10 - totally homosexual
are not 1's or 10's. More people are 2's or 3's, or 8's or 9's. Given the right circumstances, someone that falls closer to the middle of the range could self-identify as either gay or straight.
I knew a girl who was not strongly heterosexual but she had been in a lot of long-term relationships with men, and she began working at a fire station where all the guys were really abusive and mean to the women firefighters. She leaned heavily on her women friends during that time for support and friendship, and wound up in a lesbian relationship that was really happy. Who knows if she might have wound up in that relationship if she had not been around men who were behaving like pigs all the time? Yet some women who started out at a 1 or 2 on the scale would not have wound up with a lesbian partner even if they *were* around men who were behaving like pigs all the time.
Whichever gender you resonate to sexually, is what defines whether you are gay, straight or bi. Whichever gender you fantasize about (and I am not talking about the odd, affectionate moment, but a consistent pattern) is the way to tell.
(Incidentally, many women pretend-kissed with a pal once in grade school just to see what it was like. In a lot of ways, that is consistent with being boy-crazy, if that is why they were doing it. I.e., "so when we go on dates we will know how to do it.")
1 - totally heterosexual to 10 - totally homosexual
are not 1's or 10's. More people are 2's or 3's, or 8's or 9's. Given the right circumstances, someone that falls closer to the middle of the range could self-identify as either gay or straight.
I knew a girl who was not strongly heterosexual but she had been in a lot of long-term relationships with men, and she began working at a fire station where all the guys were really abusive and mean to the women firefighters. She leaned heavily on her women friends during that time for support and friendship, and wound up in a lesbian relationship that was really happy. Who knows if she might have wound up in that relationship if she had not been around men who were behaving like pigs all the time? Yet some women who started out at a 1 or 2 on the scale would not have wound up with a lesbian partner even if they *were* around men who were behaving like pigs all the time.
Whichever gender you resonate to sexually, is what defines whether you are gay, straight or bi. Whichever gender you fantasize about (and I am not talking about the odd, affectionate moment, but a consistent pattern) is the way to tell.
(Incidentally, many women pretend-kissed with a pal once in grade school just to see what it was like. In a lot of ways, that is consistent with being boy-crazy, if that is why they were doing it. I.e., "so when we go on dates we will know how to do it.")
maybe your just going through alot of different age stages and you never know you just could be .
Hi,
This is not a direct answer to your question, but still I thought, should help you. Better to stop worrying about it and concentrate more on your hetrosexuality and down play your other feelings, if any. Human mind has got a problem of getting stuck to a thing the more you think about it. So the best option for you will be not to think about it.
Solace
This is not a direct answer to your question, but still I thought, should help you. Better to stop worrying about it and concentrate more on your hetrosexuality and down play your other feelings, if any. Human mind has got a problem of getting stuck to a thing the more you think about it. So the best option for you will be not to think about it.
Solace
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