I'm a 68 year old married male that has lost his sexual desire for my wife. This occurred after my three neck surgeries in 1995,96 and 97. During that time I developed chronic pain that could be help only by pain medication (Vicodan, Flexeril, etc.) for that time period from 94 through 2000. At that time I was in another vehicle accident which increased the pain and they put me on morprine for two years. In 2002, I had another neck surgery but it did not correct the chronic pain problem. They put me on Fentanyl through 2007. I then went to a pain specialist who gave me epidurals for pain and trigger point shots. This went on for a year then he switched me over to methadone which I'm still on. During the year of 2008, I was in another vehicle accident and during april had open heart surgery. After the surgery, I was sent back to the hospital after being released from the surgery for water detoxification which put me on life support for four days. After this epizode, I was starting to feel a lot better but I was still on 20 mg of methadone. During this period of time, I have had no sexual desire for my wife. No cuddling, little kissing, and no sexual intercouse. I want to reestablish sexual relationships with my wife but don't know how to get myself kickstarted and to have that desire back. Can you help.
Sincerely,
Frustrated Husband