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I am in dire need of some advice in bed. So usually, I have sex with my girlfriend and I don't last too long, even with a condom. I try going at it again afterwards, but I have trouble keeping my erection. This isn't a problem in masterbation though.
One night, she really wanted to have sex. I had masterbated the day before, and was a bit hesitant (I usually do not masterbate before I know I will have sex). However, we had little foreplay and I was able to last for around 3 ejaculations nonstop. I was amazed, and I was sure that my curse was lifted.
However, we tried it again recently and well... I was back to my old self again. This time, I went back to my old habit of not masterbating at all for a couple days prior to intercourse. She isn't a big fan of foreplay and I don't know how I can satisfy her needs like I did before.
My question is... what role does masterbation before sex play in the amount of time a guy can last in bed (duration before ejaculation, recovery time, and endurance)? What did I do wrong the second time? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
One night, she really wanted to have sex. I had masterbated the day before, and was a bit hesitant (I usually do not masterbate before I know I will have sex). However, we had little foreplay and I was able to last for around 3 ejaculations nonstop. I was amazed, and I was sure that my curse was lifted.
However, we tried it again recently and well... I was back to my old self again. This time, I went back to my old habit of not masterbating at all for a couple days prior to intercourse. She isn't a big fan of foreplay and I don't know how I can satisfy her needs like I did before.
My question is... what role does masterbation before sex play in the amount of time a guy can last in bed (duration before ejaculation, recovery time, and endurance)? What did I do wrong the second time? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Masturbation does a few things. It releases endorphians, which calm the body. That calmness helps you relax during sex, and could make you last longer. Also, when you ejaculate, your sperm count goes down. It takes time for the count to reuturn to normal. Sometimes, your body knows when the sperm count it low and it wont ejaculate that much, or it wont ejaculate for a while. Once the count returns to normal, your testicles send the message to your brain that says they're back at full capacity again. Try different positions that will help her get stimulated. Do things like giving her a massage pre-sex to help her get warmed up. It's not technically foreplay, but it will help you get in the moode.
Endurance comes with time and age. It is not uncommon for younger men to ejactulate earlier in the day if they are planning to be sexual that night. They say it helps them last longer. As for her not liking foreplay, that is very odd, foreplay is the biggest part of love making. You might want to convince her to give it a try.
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