HIV Risk ? From BlowJob Recipient Who Got Cuts on Penis

[FoolForSex]

Well, here goes.  I need some, hopefully good, info regarding a recent encounter I had that was bad and stupid on my part and has me very fearful now.

I recieved a BJ from a guy who had given a BJ to someone else moments before and possibly had semen in his mouth.  He then proceeded to blow me in such a rough fashion (which I stopped, but it was too late) and it resulted in bruising and a few small cuts on my penis head.

I have since found out that this person was HIV positive and now I am incredibly fearful.  While there seemed to be no blood in his mouth of his own, there could've been other men's semen.  

Do I have a big concern for transmission here?  Would saliva have killed any possible infected semen or blood in his mouth?  Could possibly infected semen or the possibility of blood in his mouth have entered the lacerations he gave me during the oral sex?

Any statistics, facts, advice or otherwise you can give to put my mind at ease here would be truly appreciated.

I'll never compromise myself like this again, but is it likely it's too late to matter?

Thanks for your kind help.

[FoolForSex]

Just to follow up, I was tested and was negative.

My doctor said that the odds of all these stars lining up for something to happen was very small and that while it was right to get tested, he felt I had zero reason to worry.  

I am negative and a new careful man for the 2nd chance.

Be safe!

[FoolForSex]

Thanks, that's good to know.  I will definately be tested.  I was more concerned about the possibility of remaining semen in his mouth from other men (who knows their HIV status) than the saliva or bleeding from gums in his mouth.  

[Kinsy]

To my understanding that a gallon of saliva infected with HIV is effective inoder to infect another person unless the person doing the BJ has  bleeding gums and accidently injured the penis. But to be sure please do get a HIV test and take note  of the window period. Good luck.

[FoolForSex]

Agreed, but that's not the question at hand here.  I've already decided that these group things we do to spice things up are not worth the risk.  I thought a blow job on the receiving end was safe..... that is the question I am asking pretty much.

[mr.lucky66]

Maybe you should change playmates and playpens?

[FoolForSex]

Absolutely, and thanks again.  I didn't know the doctors don't look here.  We didn't use a condom only because we thought oral was the only safe thing we could do.... aparantly there is no such thing as safe sex at all.

[Crystlas]

No problem.  This forum is not usually frequented by doctors, you can access the doctors forum from the main page.  There is a charge though.  If you two want to experiment in group sexual encounters in the future, why not use condoms so that you protect each other?  I can understand wanting to explore and experiment, but in this day in age... just protect your union by using protection with outsiders!  If it makes you feel any better about my post, I am a social worker.  :0)   I am glad you have chosen to get checked out and know for sure before doing anything else.  

[FoolForSex]

Thanks for the note.  I am not young and have a great boyfriend.  We were together when this occured in a group sex situation.  Something new we thought we'd try together, and this is what happened.  We are sick about it and have definately learned the lesson.

I will be safe with him for the next few months until I get cleared.  Unfortunately, your response, while exactly how I feel, isn't the clinical look I was hoping for.  I hope the doctors read it and respond too.  I have read on these forums that there were no known cases of HIV from blow job receiving (the only thing we let ourselves be apart of too because of this) and now we've got a unique situation.

Here's hoping and thanks for caring...

[Crystlas]

I do know, from education in college, that the HIV virus is in both semen and blood.  You are at high risk.  I hope you come out clean and this is a lesson to you.  I had a scare once myself from a guy that cheated on me and it was my wake up call.  I decided from that point on, before engaging in any sexual activity I would be tested for STD's with the man I was interested in getting involved in.  Well, I lost a few fellows along the way that would not go for testing, but it was worth it to me.  The one that has stuck around which we have plans to marry, got those tests with me before we had sex.  I have gay friends and I know it is not easy living that lifestyle, especially when you first come to terms with this orientation.  Are you young?  Are you in the experimental stages of being aware of your sexuality?  Is that what led you to this high risk behavior? In order to protect yourself and others, do not engage in any activity until you know that you are clean.  Do you want a nice boyfriend that you can settle down with so that you can be monogomous (sp?) in love and together?  That is the best choice, especially this day in age for any sexual orientation!  My advice, is get your STD testing done this week and let the doctor know when this encounter occured.  Some STD's show up sooner than others.  The reason you should get an entire STD profile done is an HIV individual usually has other STD's along with having HIV.  Also, I believe the standard time for enough of the virus to show up is between 1 and 3 months.  I think they have a rapid test now, so you might want to investigate that.  I do hope you are ok!!  Take care and learn from this experience!  Keep me posted!