Mental Sexual dysfunction

[Xplaya]

I have a girlfriend and when we have sex, I always have an erection and sex is no problem. No medicine needed. Since I am single, I date other women, and when intimacy comes about, I will get an erection but can't maintain it. I have used Cialis and Viagra and it helps me keep the erection but even with Cialis which supposed to last for 36 hours, my erection sometimes let me down the next day. Because of past issues in my failed marriage, I think the guilt of being with more than one partner won't allow me to have sex like I use to. I need help. I don't like the other women to feel like I am not into them because that is not the case. I am looking for the right person to be with so knowing the sexual side is important. I use protection EVERY time. I got to get over this mental block. What can I do?

[Xplaya]

To be short, my wife and I had a rocky marriage. The intimacy was cut to sex twice a month. Because I was way more sexual than that was providing, I began to cheat on my wife. I never lied to the people outside my marriage. They knew I was married and I never said that I was leaving my wife. When I got busted everyone got hurt. My ex-wife, the woman I was having an affair with and my children, because my ex-wife left the state and took my children. I was traumatized. I think that is my problem. When I sleep with more than one person, my mind will not let go of what happened in the past. I don't want that hurt to happen again. I don't feel like this is the same as being married when I am with more than one person. I use protection so I feel like I am being responsible. To be in a serious relationship, the sex has to be right so I have to test the waters but if this keeps happening, I won't be able to feel confident about myself. Therefore, settling for mediocrity.

[aglander64]

Well what exactly went wrong with you and your marriage? Why did it fail?