how do i lower my libido?

[jayblaq7]

Hi, so i really hope someone can help me. My fiance and i are about to get married next month and we are expecting a son in august which are both the greatest things i could ask for. My problem is that for the last few months our sex life has fallen to shambles and ive learned that the only reason we had sex so often before is because she would do it even if she didnt want to back then. That hurts me a lot. Sexually im a very giving person i dont have sex to get off, i want to give my partner pleasure but if she doesnt want to then neither do i. The problem is that i still get really horny everyday. If we arnt having sex that day i masturbate at least twice. Maybe im addicted. I just want to stop feeling angry about sex. How do i lower my libido? I dont want this to b something that comes between us. I love her so much i just need to not want sex as often.

[Dalubaba]

To sustain good relationship, you need balanced libido.. In your case your partner has to increase her libido or you have to reduce your libido. To decrease or increase male-libido, there are breathing exercises and for female kegel exercise is the best method to increase her libido, Doctor's advice is always helpful for advice and treatment.Doctors do advice Kegel exercises for male as well as female.If both partners are cooperative, there are many techniques, (yogic, exercise, breathing, kendlini youga,Taoist yoga).Websites are available for all details.

[ojsam]

No way -do you mess with lowering your libido  -- intimacy is the cement that makes a long loving marriage..  You stay with desire all the way and get her
checked out for the correct hormonal levels  - You need to always show that you have desire for her and it will always come back to you 10 fold.. I cant say this loud enough -- you will need this level of libido your whole married life.. There are men that wish they had it back and they have to take testosterone treatment to  have a sex drive,,  You need to have an open discussion with your future wife and get your sex drives in balance -- NOW!!!  BTW I have been married for more then 50 years.. and we still have great sex weekly..
My thoughts...

[Dalubaba]

Advice of a therapist will help you find out ways to adjust your libido. Simplest way to reduce any emotions is to take deep and slow abdominal breath. If you regularly practice, you can control your libido at any time.You can also use this to extend you intercourse for a  long time. If you have long and extended intercourse and satisfactory orgasms, your need to do more sexual activity is drastically reduced.Circulating your awareness around your microcosmic orbit is another method to convert your sexual desire to mentalenergy. Google these words to know the details.

[remar]

Before you get married I would recommend couples counseling. All people have different libido's and that's normal. You don't want this to be a problem in your marriage though. There are ways to work this problem out and that's why I recommended a therapist.