Aa
i am confused
i need help. i don't know what to do. this is slowly killing my relationship.
i am a 21 year old guy.
sometimes i can perform in bed very, very well. me and my girlfriend will have sex sessions that last for hours.
but sometimes i ejaculate very quickly and cannot get an erection again and if i do manage to get hard again and start to have sex, it will slowly get softer, making sex difficult/impossible.
it's very confusing.
i love my girlfriend very much and she is very beautiful, i want to have sex with her as much as possible, but sometimes my penis just doesn't agree.
she has suggested viagra and has told me i have to go and see a doctor, because she is finding this difficult to cope with.
i have agreed to go and see a doctor.
after looking on the internet and reading many different things about erectile dysfunction and how to maintain an erection, i am still confused and slightly worried.
i'm going to stop smoking, try to eat more healthily and try to worry less while having sex.
but i just thought i'd post on here to see if anyone can suggest anything else....
i am a 21 year old guy.
sometimes i can perform in bed very, very well. me and my girlfriend will have sex sessions that last for hours.
but sometimes i ejaculate very quickly and cannot get an erection again and if i do manage to get hard again and start to have sex, it will slowly get softer, making sex difficult/impossible.
it's very confusing.
i love my girlfriend very much and she is very beautiful, i want to have sex with her as much as possible, but sometimes my penis just doesn't agree.
she has suggested viagra and has told me i have to go and see a doctor, because she is finding this difficult to cope with.
i have agreed to go and see a doctor.
after looking on the internet and reading many different things about erectile dysfunction and how to maintain an erection, i am still confused and slightly worried.
i'm going to stop smoking, try to eat more healthily and try to worry less while having sex.
but i just thought i'd post on here to see if anyone can suggest anything else....
Right, she is not used to having sex with someone who has feelings, and who loves her, and cares about her.
Telling a 21 year old to get a prescription for Viagra is worse than selfish. if I were you, i'd be impotent every time, trying so hard to please.
You are even afraid that our comments will backfire on you.
You are a human being, a person, a man..not just a sex object.
Don't hurt yourself for that quality.
Telling a 21 year old to get a prescription for Viagra is worse than selfish. if I were you, i'd be impotent every time, trying so hard to please.
You are even afraid that our comments will backfire on you.
You are a human being, a person, a man..not just a sex object.
Don't hurt yourself for that quality.
i didn't realize i would get as many responses to my post as this!
thanks for giving me some advice, i'm still going to go and see a doctor, i know he probably won't be able to give me anything for this, but i still want to get checked out.
i do give her oral sex during foreplay and if i come early, i usually give it to her afterwards.
i don't think she is used my "tired penis" problem. she has told me, in the past, all she has had to do is touch a guy to get them hard.
i think the best thing to do, is to not rush into having sex again so soon after having it the first time and i shouldn't beat myself up about being **** in bed if i can't get it up again. i'm starting to get really nervous and anxious about pleasing her sexually and this isn't helping i guess.
please don't have a dig at my girlfriend, she isn't selfish or mean, i just don't think she is used to this...
thanks for giving me some advice, i'm still going to go and see a doctor, i know he probably won't be able to give me anything for this, but i still want to get checked out.
i do give her oral sex during foreplay and if i come early, i usually give it to her afterwards.
i don't think she is used my "tired penis" problem. she has told me, in the past, all she has had to do is touch a guy to get them hard.
i think the best thing to do, is to not rush into having sex again so soon after having it the first time and i shouldn't beat myself up about being **** in bed if i can't get it up again. i'm starting to get really nervous and anxious about pleasing her sexually and this isn't helping i guess.
please don't have a dig at my girlfriend, she isn't selfish or mean, i just don't think she is used to this...
Seconding Vance and deepdiver. At 21 and having sex for hours, you do NOT have ED. Like Vance suggested, switch to other things (oral, toys, etc.) once your penis is tired. I'm a woman, and I *know* that a penis will stay up for hours, or just a few minutes, and that it needs a break from time to time. I *know* that if my partner can't get it up after hours of sex or a long day, it has nothing to do with how much love there is between us. Vance said it perfectly: this is the human body.
It sounds like your girlfriend needs to realize that men don't have rockhard erections ALL the time. I can't help but wonder if she misguidedly thinks that true love means having sex all the time. What she wants isn't reasonable. Ask your friends; ask her friends. Who do you know has the kind of sex life your girlfriend is demanding?
It sounds like your girlfriend needs to realize that men don't have rockhard erections ALL the time. I can't help but wonder if she misguidedly thinks that true love means having sex all the time. What she wants isn't reasonable. Ask your friends; ask her friends. Who do you know has the kind of sex life your girlfriend is demanding?
What kind of responce were you looking for? Telling you to take Viagra? You don't have a problem and thinking you have a problem or your girlfriend thinking you have a problem is crazy.
To start most normal people don't have straight intercourse for hours and when men ejaculate it's a normal responce not to get aroused right away or if you get aroused that it will not last. That is the human body.
To start most normal people don't have straight intercourse for hours and when men ejaculate it's a normal responce not to get aroused right away or if you get aroused that it will not last. That is the human body.
Vance is correct! you don't have a problem!! no legit DR. will give you Viagra.
Men can't just keep it up all the time!! Do the oral sex, get some toys.
Men can't just keep it up all the time!! Do the oral sex, get some toys.
i don't think she is being selfish....
that's not the kind of response i was looking for, it's me who has the problem, not her.
that's not the kind of response i was looking for, it's me who has the problem, not her.
From what you are telling me you really don't have a problem and your girlfriend needs to stop being so selfish.
Sometimes you have sex that lasts a long time and other times it just feels too good and you are quick.This is not ED, ED is when you can't get it up.
If you don't already why not give her oral sex before intercourse? Maybe then she will not care if you are quick some nights.
Sometimes you have sex that lasts a long time and other times it just feels too good and you are quick.This is not ED, ED is when you can't get it up.
If you don't already why not give her oral sex before intercourse? Maybe then she will not care if you are quick some nights.
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