Oral sex as foreplay by both of you should clear up any confusions as to the location of each others apparatus. combined with manual stimulation so as to gradually stretch her gently so that there is a minimum of bleeding and drama when you do pentrate her.
We had a confusion we have to peneterate where the bleeding happens right(confirm me) but my wife was not sure from where the bellding happens.
Are you newly wed? It happened to me on my first night with my husband, we both were virgin. It took me 2 weeks to be able to penetrate, didnt't find any hole, LOL . I think it because your wife got scared and it hurt too, so the vagina is close tight. You have to be patient, your wife needs a long foreplay ,soon it will find a way : )
Sorry I don't understand the question. Can you not get your penis into her vagina?