Is there something wrong with me?

[laurenh932]

Whenever my boyfriend performs oral on me, it only relaxes me, I don't orgasm or feel any sexual tingles. The only time I get aroused is when he fingers me. Stimulating my clitoris doesn't really do anything either. I've never orgasmed or came. Am I just one of those girls who will never orgasm? Or will it take sex to get me off? I'm a virgin still, so I haven't explored sex. Help please? Is something wrong with me?

[laurenh932]

I really appreciate all of your help and advice. Thank you so much.

[grendslori]

Take care and do not be afraid to take your time. If your boyfriend is not willing to wait to have a full sexual relationship you may want to question his respect for your body. I wish you well.

[laurenh932]

Yes, I understand. I just recently became sexually active. I'm not on birth control, but I'm also not having sexual intercourse. I do understand I need to be more careful with my decisions, and really think them through.

[grendslori]

Well at 17 you are certainly becoming a young woman; however, you are more than likely still in high school which means you would not be ready to have children. Think about what you are really doing; if you get pregnant, this boy may very likely end up blaming you for this happening and spilt. You may end up hating the sight of each other and he will be a big part of your life (and perhaps your new husbands') for the next 18 years and that is longer than you have been alive. Just think about it. If you get pregnant at your age, chances ae your parents are going to be taking on more responsibility than they care to and you may want to picture yourself telling them that you are pregnant. Birth control is great if you are using it, but it is certainly not 100% proof; my best friend got pregnant for her three daughters while on different birth control products.

[laurenh932]

I see what you're saying, and I appreciate your input. I'm 17 and I do feel I am mentally and physically mature enough to be having sex, though I'm sure all teenagers say that.

[grendslori]

One other thing to think about is whether or not you are really old enough and mentally mature enough to be having sex of any sort with your boyfriend. The reason I say this is because if you are not old enough to handle the resposibility of becoming a parent (either of you) the stress of having a sexual encounter may just tip the scales against you enjoying the sexual experience in the first place. The fear that you may become pregnant can certainly play on your mind and alter what you feel.

[laurenh932]

Thank you so much for your input, I really appreciate it :)